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okay so i like this boy named colin. i liked him for 2 years. in the beginning of last year we were really close. we would sit with eachother in lunch at school and have one on one conversations. he would always walk with me to class and stuff like that. i first met him in the beginning of last year, but the year before that we would always talk to eachother on facebook and myspace and we had conversations that would go on and on and on. so i knew he liked me, it was really obvious. he would hold me and i once fell asleep on his arms and i almost kissed him but i got too scared, i just freaked, our faces were so close and our eye to eye for the longest time but i just looked down and layed my head in his chest. he also had tons of other friends at this one table at lunch but he would sit with me. i felt bad cuz i sat at this table that had really annoying kids, but he never left me and he never asked me to move to his friends table. he was nice. but i really love him a lot. i was getting doubts that he didnt like me, so this boy named dan asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes. so BOOM!..that was the crash of our close friendship. colin moved to his friends table while i was holding hands with a person i didnt love and deep down inside i was dieing. i cried every night. i am NOT lying. i did cry every night because he didnt walk me to class anymore. he would just wave to me in the hallway and thats it. after two weeks i left dan and i sat at the table with colins friends and i made friends with all of them. but colin wouldn't talk to me like he used to. just small conversations and no one on one time :(...so it's been a year like that, and i still cant stop thinking about him. so i sent him a message exactly like this "hey colin, um, i have feelings for you, so much so more than a friend. you dont need to respond to this."...he didnt have to respond but i thought he would. so it turned out he didnt respond. its only been a day since i sent him the message and i knew he got it because it said that he opened it. i dont know what to do. everytime i see him i want to cry and i shake when i am next to him. we dont even have classes together like last year. so when i see him in the hallway he justs gives me a wave and i just look down :( i hate this. please help me.
Well you are going to have to talk to him in person. He may have gotten his heart a little broken when he saw you with that other guy. You know it's really hard for guys with feelings and stuff. I would maybe ask him if he'd like to go to the park or something with you just to hang out and then let him know how you feel. Hey, you'll be no worse off :) Just say he you know...I really like you and I went out with that guy cause he asked me out and I was lonley and I didn't know if you liked me, but I wasn't happy and that's why I left him and I feel like I should follow my heart" and then go from there. :) Hope this helps :) It's hard I know...I told a guy I liked him before and he had a girl :P I was hoping he would leave her cause I thought he liked me more. He told me he liked me and that if he wasn't with his girl he would date me, for like 5-10 min we had a conversation about it, I mean he spilled his guts because he was drunk...not falling over, but just more honest you know and a few days later he denied it. Not like Totally RAH but like "what? what are you talking about i never said that" I knew it was because he didn't want to mess stuff up with his girl. But it worked out cause I found the right guy for me, and I actually talked to him first too and it turned out he felt the same way but he is just a really shy guy. Just be honest and put your pride aside and be willing to just hear whatever and know that what ever it is you can move on...without him or with him :) ___________________Girl Let me tell you...men fear rejection a lot more than women. Men have to deal with rejection ALL THE TIME. haha We almost have men falling at our feet, and if you don't right now...you just wait, as you start to get older you will be getting free stuff all the time and more just cause you are a woman and attractive :) Imagine the fear you feel, and double or tripple it, that's probably what he's feeling. Especially if he really likes you. :) It'll work it's self out. :)
(Rating: 5) thank you..its a scary thing...going up to him and just saying "hey can i talk to you for a sec?"..i saw him today but i couldnt face him, so much pain..but i noticed that he did glance at me..i just wonder why he never comes up to me and talks to me first..