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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
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I am 15 years old, and I have known my boyfriend for 4 years, he also happens to be my best friend's 13 year old brother. Just recently he and I became eachother's first boyfriend and girlfriend after we told eachother that we've always liked one another. It's been a few months now, we see eachother alot and just act silly and play like we always have....but it doesn't feel any different to me. I really wish to hold his hand or at least have him show the ways that he cares for me in person, instead of only showing them on-line :P. Then a few days ago he emailed me and told me that he cares for me so much but he doesn't feel mature enough to be in a relationship. He has also heard (from my best friend) that lately there have been some guys my age making moves on me...which of course i have no interest in tham at all! I was very understanding of his feelings, though it does make me sad. But he says that it makes him feel like a wimp that he hasn't made a move yet..He just feels nervous that he's going to mess up being romantic and he says that i deserve more than that. I really need some advice! I really truly like him, but should I just let this go and try dating someone my own age in the future?( which i can't imagine right now) What could I possibly do to help him with being more brave to show how he feels about me? Should I just be patient and let him start being romantic when it feels right for him?
Be patient. PLEASE. Let him hold hands, kiss, and whatnot on his own terms.
I can't tell you how many times I've been in a relationship with a girl, and she was ready to do all that stuff, and I wasn't, and I felt REALLY pressured into doing it.
Let him know that you think it's sweet that he's trying to not mess up this relationship, and that you are completely supportive of him taking his time. That is the right thing to do.
--Jack
(17/m)
(Rating: 5) It's great to get some advice from a guy. And I definetley don't want him to feel pressured. I have already let him know how much I care about him and that I can wait until it feels right for him. Thanks for your feedback.