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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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There's this guy I really like,and we've been bffs for a few years.But in time I fell head over heels for him.He's very popular and has lots of friends(mostly girls).The thing is he just treats me differently.He's caring,gentle and always makes me feel right,he's always there for me,he knows what I need,what to say,do,and when...What's also a problem is his sexual orientation.One second he seems gay,then he's normal again.Btw,he told me he's a bit gay...but the things he does when with me just show the opposite.Should I go for it?I don't know what to do,I've loved him for so long and I have a feeling he loves me too,but I'm really afraid of getting rejected...I was extremely hurt in my previous relationships.I don't want to lose my best friend,then yet,I can't keep this a secret from him much longer...
15/f and he's 15 too

Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?



-Laura (17-f)

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(Rating: 5) you're right,I'll give it a shot...thanks!
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