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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well
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Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl and yeah, here's the thing. So there was this one guy I liked who I hung out with who seemed really sweet and we had been friends for like a year. Anyway, while we were chilling we started to make out. He started taking it too far and when I told him to stop, he didn't. I tried to get away from him, but I couldn't. I mean, I was physically not able to. He completely overpowered me and I got really scared! He wouldn't let go off me and he wouldn't listen when I told him to stop. Then I yelled. Of course, after he saw that I was serious he stopped and apologized. I don't think he meant to do anthing, but still, I was REALLY freaked out. I never want to feel that helpless and weak again, and it really makes me sad for girls who have been raped. Because if I'm feeling this bad from that, I can't even imagine what they're going through.
I'd just like to add that I'm in shape, and I'm strong and stuff, but I'm a fairly small girl, and I just can't change that. Also, I have taken self defesne classes which I thought would come in handy, but they didn't. At least not in this case. And the reason I take care of myself and took those classes is because I HATE that feeling I got when that boy did that to me. I hate feeling weak.
Anyway, the problem I'm having now is that I'm really scared around guys that are like bigger than me. I just look at them and I think 'He could do anything he wanted to me and I wouldn't be able to do anything about it'. I even think these things about my guy friends that I've known forever. It's almost like trust issues? But it's also this pissed off feeling I get when I think about all those guys who take advantage of girls like that one boy could have done with me. It really makes me angry. What goes through those guys's minds? Why do they do that? I mean, I know they just want pleasure, but they have to know that they are hurting those girls in ways that aren't just physical don't they? Like why would you do that to a girl? Aren't guys supposed to use their strength to protect us? If someone could answer those questions, that would be great, because at the moment I am just so mad.
Thanks!
I'm sorry that happened to you. You shouldn't be afraid of guys who are big. Before doing anything with a guy even kiss, you should be able to trust him and see what he's about. Yes I believe guys should protect women and there is no excuse for hitting a girl or cussing at them and especially not pushing or controling them to do something they aren't willing to do. That's the type of guys you should be looking for. And the next time a guy does something like that hit him where hurts, he'll be off of you in a second.
(Rating: 5) thanks!