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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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this will be long, but i will return the favor to anyone who is generous enough to read(:
alright lets get the facts straight:
i just turned 19, the guy i like his name is joe, just turned 18. me and joe have been friends for about 6 years now. joe has been dating his girlfriend for 3 straight years.
the thing is, im IN love with joe. i've been in love with him but he loves his girlfriend. i cant get over him, we use to be best friends. we use to hangout ALL THE TIME, before his girlfriend came along.
i can't keep joe off my mind, seriously he's on my mind 24/7 im not kidding, i even dream about him (weird...) even when i was on vacation i thought about him. when im with my friends i think about him. when i'm at work, i think about him. when i'm with another guy, i think about him more. no matter what i'm doing or where i am, i think about him.
the HORRIBLE thing is, i can't get away from the situation. one of my best friends, is my cousin and guess what? joe is my cousins NEXT DOOR neighbor so everytime i'm at my cousins i get to see joe's girlfriends car over there and it kills every single time.
i'm SO vulnerable when i'm with joe. when we hangout alone, which is like hmm, once every FOUR months he always tries getting with me. i've never done anything with him but god i want to so bad. even though its so wrong because he has a girlfriend ive never been so comfortable with any other guy.
i tell joe alot, he's always there for me. when i cry, he holds me and tells me everythings going to be okay. when i laugh, he smiles. when i look sad he always knows and asks "whats wrong, cheer up" and even when i say "nothing's wrong..." he always knows there is.
i'm not happy unless i'm with joe. i see him probably once a month because hes with his girlfriend 24/7. she sleeps over at his house, he's been to her cabin, she's been on trips with his family and that hurts soooo bad. his brothers and sisters adore me, everytime i see them they scream my name and come give me a hug.
i've never told him i've had feelings for him but i know he knows by how i talk to him, how i flirt with him. but what good is it doing? i'm obviously not good enough for him to break up with his girlfriend. and i dont want things to be awkward between us.
i love how so many girls think hes hot, but no matter how many girls throw themselves at him he will never act different around me. his current girlfriend, has been his only girlfriend. the things he does sexual, hes only done with one girl, and thats his girlfriend.
i rememeber about two years ago this guy i was interested in broke my heart and all i could say is "i need joe, i need to talk to him" because he truly makes me happy.
i honestly don't know what to do. my friends say, move on. you deserve better than him. but its not that easy! i've tried, i cant just let someone whose been in my life for six years just go away like that.
we barely text anymore because of his girlfriend. his girlfriend is the ONLY person who makes me cry because i know that she has him, and hes the only thing i want.
any suggestions? i'm so lost. i seriously realized i love this boy. my heart is broken. it breaks everyday when i wake up and realize he's still with her. i've tried meeting new guys, it doesnt work.
anything will help!
Hey there,
Ok firstly I know how horrible this situation is and how hard and hurtful it is its not nice for ANYONE to have to go through & im truely sorry its happening to you,but im going to give you straight honest advice from my point of view it might not be what you want to hear but I think its what you NEED to hear.
you need to ween yourself off joe,the feelings your feeling are not good and your torturing yourself with them really,it looks like youve let them take over your life.. theres so much to live for don't waste your time sitting around moping and depressing yourself over one guy,I know you feel like no one may understand at the moment but trust me I do Ive been there you think about him 24/7 and feel like youl never be able to stop but you can and you will.
you have to because the hard truth is joe is happy with his girlfriend and you just have to do your best and get through it.
you need to talk to him about your feelings and how its eating you up inside you need to get them off your chest to him,and tell him you need distance so you can truely get over him,
also its not fair of him to try get with you espcially when he has a girlfriend and he if you say hes really aware of your feelings towards him!?you say youve tried but have you really?
be hard on yourself dont let yourself think about him every time his name or something about him gets into your mind distract yourself away from it keep busy have fun live your life get out there. youve wasted too much time wishing you were with joe,your still really young think about it,is there any point at this stage?
you dont have to let him go,just let your feelings go,and just be his friend its do-able.
motivate yourself take up new hobbies go out more anything you need to start living again properly.
I hope I helped in anyway and that you do get over joe because it really is the best way.
Much
(Rating: 5) thank you so much!