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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
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I'm 17 and so is my boyfriend. He has this cousin who's about 30 years old, maybe a little older. Well his cousin hasn't spoken to my bf in about a year and they live five minutes away from each other. Well suddenly his cousin decided to reconnect with my bf and they've been spending every day together for the past week and a half. I honestly wouldn't mind because its family but his cousin is so rude, annoying and racist. My bf quit smoking pot but if he smells it, it makes him want to smoke and his cousin always smokes pot around him. If we're in the car he'll smoke a cigarette and not bother to blow the smoke out the window. We live in an area where there's a large hasidic Jewish community during the summer and it makes the full time residents a little annoyed because it gets really busy and hectic...but most people will never say anything. Well one day my bf and I were driving with his cousin and he starts yelling racist comments out the window.I was so embarrsased! After that he whistled at two 16 year old girls that I used to go to school with..and remember this guy is about 30yrs old. One thing that drove me nuts happened a couple days ago. After being with him all day my bf was supposed to drive his cousin home but instead his cousin wanted to stop by a friends house. I thought we were going to be there for 10 minutes but instead we were in this run down, dirty apartment building for an hour and a half while his cousin got drunk with his friends and then we eventually drove him home after stopping for cigarettes that he saked my bf to pay for. This guy is driving me crazy. He always makes my bf drive him around and do favors for him and my bf just does it because he's too nice to say no. I don't want to tell my bf I hate the guy because that's his family and my bf always is willing to hang out with my family so I'd feel bad but I don't know what to do. I don't want my bf to be taken advantage of.
Talk to your boyfriend, because if you don't say anything, he won't know that you don't appreciate how his cousin is treating him.
A 30 year old is SUPPOSED to be more mature than that, so obviously he has issues.
Ask your boyfriend if it would be alright if you three didn't all hang out anymore, at least not with you involved, because while it isn't fair to him how the cousin is treating him, it isn't fair to you how he's treating him [and you, for that matter].
--Jack
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(Rating: 5) Thank you for being the first answer that wasn't telling me to be that annoying controlling girlfriend