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thanks so much for helping me...but my plan got a little messed up...so we just talked on the phone about some stuff and he said he still has feelings for me, but he isn't ready for a relationship because he kinda just wants to have fun and he thinks its hard work. he then said that if he went to a party with me he wouldn't trust himself because the good feelings would come back. he also said that he's been only thinking about the good times we had together and none of the bad. i asked him to go on vacation with me because i thought the time was right and he said he definetly wanted to but he has to make sure his dad will have left by then (he's a soilder in iraq and comes home for like a month). but he made it clear he definetly wanted to go.... so how can i make him see that he can have fun AND be in a relationship (not fun as in have sex with other girls, but like not have to have relationship stress on his shoulders) i miss him tonssssss =/

its not problem.. =)
okay so everything he said was great,he still has feelings for you thats what you wanted and you got him thinking of all the good times which is what you set out for and having fun remember just concentrating on that and not the relaitionship end of things?
you cant make him see,he will figure it out for himself trust me youve done all you can do at this stage and its worked out really well.
you cant pressure him into the relationship again you just have to respect what hes saying and let him realise that he really wants to be with you again.
Just make it clear to him that your not out to be taken for a ride..meaning your not gonna be a "friend with benefits" type if you get me.
I dont think theese are his intentions hes just still confused but if they ever become his intentions set him straight right away.
its great he wants to go on the vacations and hopefully he can.
if he does keep on hanging out having fun but bring it up descretly say that being in a relationship doesnt have to be stressful if its what you both want,and that he can't just ignore good feelings. =)

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(Rating: 5) thank you tons
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