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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.
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me: 14/F
him: 15/M
Okay. So I'm like super nervous to hang out with this boy. Here's what happened. I met him a few months ago and we swapped numbers, yadayadayada. Anyway, for like a month we just didn't text, and then a few weeks ago we started again, I don't know, we just did. Well, we really got to know eachother for the first time because I never see him (he is a year older and goes to a diferent school) and well, I think I really like him. He started to call me and we would talk on the phone at night, and then he asked me on a date... And I said yes.
Well now here's the tricky part. See, first off, he IS a year older, and quite a bit more experienced than me. He has made out, and I've never even been kissed. He wants to kiss on our date, but, well I just don't know... Also, I am totally scared that it is going to be so awkward. Because, I can't really remember very wonderfully what he looks like. I could recognize him if I saw him (I think!?), but I don't know if he remembers me that well. He says he does, but what if he doesn't? What if he thinks I'm like super ugly and stuff? Plus, since this is pretty much our first time meeting in person, I just think it is going to be so awkward...
Any advice? Tips? Something to calm me down? Kissing tips would be great, advice on how to make the date less awkward or what to do on a first date because I am SOOO new at this... Plus, what do I do if I he starts moving too fast? Help!?
PS: We are going to see a movie if that helps
Seeing a movie will take a lot of the pressure off of you to kiss and whatnot, even though people like to make out at the movies or whatever.
Anyway. So what if he thinks you're ugly. He likes your personality enough to go on a date with you, so I think that should matter for something.
Your first time meeting in person will only be awkward if you make it awkward. So don't. It's as simple as that.
Something to calm you down? Just go with the flow. Be yourself, and don't change yourself to impress him. He already likes you, at least it seems that way, so just act like you normally do.
Kissing tips? I have a lot from a previous question found here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542507. But, my main advice is to go with the flow and don't shove your tongue down their throat because it's uncomfortable for the other person.
If he starts "moving too fast?" Well, talk to him and tell him what you're comfortable with, and let him know you'll tell him if things are too fast for you. He should be understanding since you're not experienced with kissing or anything. But definitely don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
Best of luck!
--Jack
(17/m)
(Rating: 5) Thank you babe! That was really helpful!