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ok i need serious help. I'm in love with my boyfriend, but the way he's acting is ridiculous.
the other night someone told him that i had started smoking again, he fliped and took my ciggarettes and then yelled at me for not coming to him first. He is so convinced that i'm going to cheat on him with one of my brothers friends that he had a panic attack that put him in the hospital. He wont let me go around my bro. and he is constantly reminding me of how i started smoking behind his back. He told someone behind my back that i dress like a slut around other people(a turtle neck is slutty to him). He went through my fone and called eveyone who txted me!
Thats just the bad though.
i absolutley adore him. i'm in love with him. He's always calling just to say i love you and he always makes sure im comfortable.
but apparently the way he's treating me has caused my best friend to stop talking to me until i leave him because my BFF is tired of me being treated like this.
What should i do!?
PLLLEEEAAASSSEEE HEELLLLP ASAP
Thank you
Love always ~heather
He seems very controlling beneath the lovey dovey act, caused by insecurities and lack of trust.
1. How long have you been with him - because trust takes time.
2. Have you ever done anything to break his trust - because it may have damaged him in some way and needs to build the trust back.
If you've never done anything to break his trust for you (minus the smoking incident), you need to have a serious conversation with him now, because the relationship is making him ILL and it's pushing you away.
Explain to him everything you are feeling - perhaps even show him this question and your cry for help.
Let him know you aren't going to cheat or hurt him and remind him you don't do the same to him as he does to you (I hope that is true..?)
Trusting people takes time but the way he is going about it isn't going to help - everything is just going to make him suspicous.
You need to make him understand if he doesn't stop, it's going to kill your relationship and end in a bad way. That is a fact.
(Rating: 4) Thanks