Gender:
MaleLocation:
DenmarkOccupation:
TranslatorAge:
43Member Since:
November 28, 2004Answers:
1296Last Update:
April 28, 2014Visitors:
136447Favorite Columnists
lalalaflower
karenR
jenny914
DangerNerd
isis
theymos
Cux
Erinn_the_bamf
Lola
LM
LagunaBabe
more...
Main Categories:
Fitness
Nutrition
Friendship
View All
about
Forum!
advice
Okay im 17 and i love my boyfriend to death! We have talk about babies a few times and we both want one but our only problem is that we have no money so we dropped the subject, well atleast he did. I really want one but i dont know why. I thought it was just a faze but i been wanting one for awhile now! I love babies. Im going to college to be a midwife and ultrasound tech. Its a possibility that i may be pregnant now but i wont know til this weekend. I dont know how he will react if i was but if im not i may be real upset. I dont really like kids though lol well kids that im not use to. They all seem so bad but my lil brother is one of the baddest kids i know and i love him soo much! Maybe because he was raised around me so he listens to me. Hummm i think i would be a good mother and i know i would love my kid even as it grows cause i mean its mine. What do i do? Do i talk to him about having one? Or just keep praying that the subject pops up and he tells me that he's ready? Im young but i know i can do it. i dont know help? =]
Your whole life will change, and I really mean everything. The reason that kids your age are not encouraged to have children is because of the huge responsibility that comes with it. At your age you are supposed to have time to develop certain skills, to socialise and evolve your personality, and generally to experiment with life.
A child will change all that. From the minute its born you will have to worry about its health, about money, and about the future. Needless to say you will have a very hard time making it through college.
Now, why on earth would you want to take the risk at this stage in your life? While I know that emotion can be overpowering at times, this is the time to rely on reason. Everything you want to give to this child you will be better able to do a few years down the line. Why risk this now? And I dont mean just for yourself, but also for your child.
Anyhow, I hope you reconsider. No harm in waiting a few years and getting a better foothold in life.
Good luck
Alin 34/m
(Rating: 5) Now that i think about it im not as ready as i thought!
Thanks for the advice. I think ill wait! =]