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im 17 and i want a baby!
Okay im 17 and i love my boyfriend to death! We have talk about babies a few times and we both want one but our only problem is that we have no money so we dropped the subject, well atleast he did. I really want one but i dont know why. I thought it was just a faze but i been wanting one for awhile now! I love babies. Im going to college to be a midwife and ultrasound tech. Its a possibility that i may be pregnant now but i wont know til this weekend. I dont know how he will react if i was but if im not i may be real upset. I dont really like kids though lol well kids that im not use to. They all seem so bad but my lil brother is one of the baddest kids i know and i love him soo much! Maybe because he was raised around me so he listens to me. Hummm i think i would be a good mother and i know i would love my kid even as it grows cause i mean its mine. What do i do? Do i talk to him about having one? Or just keep praying that the subject pops up and he tells me that he's ready? Im young but i know i can do it. i dont know help? =]
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I was in the same position as you when i was 17. I was desperate for a baby. So i had one. Things were fine for a while but i fell out of love with my boyfriend because he was never home, and lost alot of my friends and things like that. You really need to be sure this is what you want. I wouldnt trade my little girl for anything in the world but if i had waited another few years it may have been different.
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This might not be what you want to hear but..
Think about this, You are 17 and you want a kid?!
I know babies are cute, but they are a TON of work. Not only you, but your boyfriend also will need a full time job with income. Babies are NOT cheap. They require diapers, formula, clothes, crib, baby chair, toys, food, etc. The baby should live in an enviroment that is healthy and stable. It's only fair to the child. You don't have a baby because it's cute or adorable that is not a good enough reason to even be thinking about it. If you really want a baby maybe you should look at a dog for now and wait until you and your boyfriend are married. You don't want to have a baby and be living at your parents house. You are better off waiting trust me.
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Your whole life will change, and I really mean everything. The reason that kids your age are not encouraged to have children is because of the huge responsibility that comes with it. At your age you are supposed to have time to develop certain skills, to socialise and evolve your personality, and generally to experiment with life.
A child will change all that. From the minute its born you will have to worry about its health, about money, and about the future. Needless to say you will have a very hard time making it through college.
Now, why on earth would you want to take the risk at this stage in your life? While I know that emotion can be overpowering at times, this is the time to rely on reason. Everything you want to give to this child you will be better able to do a few years down the line. Why risk this now? And I dont mean just for yourself, but also for your child.
Anyhow, I hope you reconsider. No harm in waiting a few years and getting a better foothold in life.
Good luck
Alin 34/m
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you may think you want one now, but when you have to be awake 24 hours of a day tending to the child, you will most likely regret it. youre young. dont you want to still spend time with friends ? people. i say enjoy the best years of your life, dont do it. wait a couple more years. get married. be sure hes the guy youll spend the ret of your life with. you want your kid to have a child. make sure you have enough money to provide for everything a child needs. once you have a kid, you wont be a kid anymore. you will have to be a completely mature adult.
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I have that same feeling to, im pretty sure a lot of girls do.. since its out instinct to have kids. My friend got pregnant when she was 16 not meaning to she just had her baby.. she had to drop out of school to get a job.. she literally works all the time and when shes not working shes with her boyfriend and baby we NEVER she her, but we understand. You may seem like your ready but if you dont have a stable job then dont get pregnant its just going to cause problems wait until your out of school with a stable job that brings in good money. im 17 and i wanted a baby really bad, i love my boyfriend to death and i thought we were ready and so did he we tried to get pregnant even but i didn't and im glad for that because im still in highschool and i have a job and so does my boyfriend but its nearly not enough money to support a child. Seeing my friend and how much she has to work just to bring in the least amount of money possible to raise a child is scary, just wait until your older, have a place of your own and are REALLY ready. Think of all the things you do probably now, and how much of those things you will be able to do with a baby... not much. It will be so much easier for you, a baby and your boyfriend if you wait.. trust me
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