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Alright, so this question is going to make me sound extremely stupid, but should I convert my religion to try to get with this guy that i really like? He's mormon, and I looked up some stuff and it says that mormons can only date other mormons. I really want to be with him. We dont actually know each other. Ive introduced myself twice and he thinks im crazy, but I want him to notice me in a good way and i think going to his church and being all mormon will be a good way to get his attention and show him that im right for him.
Plus I have no real religion as of right now. I mean I believe in God and all that but I dont go to church.

Any advice will be appriciated
Thanks

Well, I do not believe in any religion, and as such I place little value on one school of though versus another. Still though, I too do not believe you should "convert" albeit for different reasons than the other people.

You will also note I put convert in inverted commas above. There is a reason for that. Changing your religion to meet this guy is hardly converting. Yes, you could technically call it that, but normally it implies more. It implies actually believing in this new religion.

Now we can come to why you should not. It is dishonest. It is an outright lie to him, to the faith, and pretty much to anyone else that you tell you are a Mormon.

From my perspective all other reasons are irrelevant. Relationships (real, long lasting ones) are built on trust and respect. You would be establishing your relationship without either.

Good luck.

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