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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

So, my boyfriend has a best friend named Tessa. Tessa and I have been best friends for awhile, and me, my boyfriend, and her have the same circle of friends. We have been friends long before I started dating my boyfriend. Anyway, Tessa is always inviting my boyfriend to go places with her. To her house, to her godfathers lake house, ect. I know they are friends and all, but this makes me very uncomfortable. I know Tessa has liked my boyfriend in the past, and she says she doesn't like him now, but still. I know if she had a boyfriend that I was good friends with I wouldn't invite him over my house alone, so I don't understand why she would do that to me? So basically, what should I do? I know my boyfriend hates being put in the middle because I tell him he can't hang out with her alone. But should I let him even though it bugs me? This has caused a huge fight between me and Tessa, and I can't ever imagine being friends with her again. Ugh, what do I do!

It's not right to come between a guy and his friends, whether those friends are male or female. I know you don't want to hear this, but that is selfish to put him in the position to choose.

If you trust HIM, what she may or may not do shouldn't matter. If you trust HIM, he would not fall for any hypothetical advances made by her.

This has already seemingly destroyed the relationship with your best friend. She was your best friend. Why don't you trust her? Is this really, seriously worth losing your best friend over?

So she invites him to hang out here and there. She is also his best friend. Is that not what friends do?

If it makes you so uncomfortable, rather than getting all huffy and trying to disallow him to hang out with his best friend, why not try to think up something you can ALL do together?

ygs-30/f

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