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about
I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. we have a baby together and live together. we broke up for a period of 2 months and just 3 weeks ago, he moved back in, and we are going through couples counseling to try and work things out. everytime i even look in the direction of another man, i get world war 3 in my ear. every little movement i make is questioned...he even goes as far as looking at my cell phone constantly. clearly, he does not trust me, and to be honest, i dont trust him that much either, which is why we are going through counseling to work out our issues and built ourselves up. however, there is a girl that lives upstairs from us (we live in an apt. building) and she lives with her boyfriend and their one year old son. my boyfriend is friends with her boyfriend and i am cool with the both of them. i dont talk to them much, but have no problems with them and they seem like nice people that i could definately get to know. my boyfriend goes up there sometimes to hang out with them. well, her boyfriend went to jail a few days ago and my boyfriend continues to go up there. he goes up there at least once a day for a while at a time. some of her friends and family are up there most of the time, so her and my boyfriend are never alone. they all just hang out up there. however, i do not feel it is fair for him to be up there as much as he is since it DOES make me uncomfortable. just the fact that my man is constantly going to another females apt. time after time really gets under my skin. plus, when you look at the big picture, he is CONSTANTLY picking at every move i make(the trust issues) and constantly checking everything i do and everyone i look at and so forth. we have been arguing about this for the past week because my point is: if your girlfriend is uncomfortable with you going to another females apt. ALL the time, then you stop. no question about it. there should be no comparison and not even a fight about it. that girl should not mean nearly as much to him as i do, so it shouldnt matter. he says he is allowed to have friends and yes of course he is! but after all the crap i hear from him about what IM doing, i dont think its fair for him to get to run around and do whatever he wants and it should be okay. he said we dont have friends unless there mutual, and i agreed, even though i feel its rediculous. he said that because when we got back together, i had new friends that he didnt know. and, now that its time for HIM to follow his OWN rules, everything changes and it doesnt apply. and besides, this friend isnt mutual. he asks me to come up there and im always busy or doing something with the baby so i dont go. but flat out, if your girl isnt okay with something like that, then it should end there. any suggestions or opinions???
Sounds to me like this guy has serious control issues. You are a person, not a robot to be programed. If he wants things to work between you guys (which he REALLY needs to want that- there is a child involved) then he needs to work on his control issues in counseling.
Seriously... He needs to step back and look at his behavior. Would he want someone treating his CHILD that way?
No, it isn't right that he's going up there. Sure, she's a mutual friend and all, but in all honesty, SHE needs to come down and hang out with BOTH of you, rather than him going up to her. You would surely find that a comfortable arrangement, right?
If she's your friend, she'll do it that way. If not, some friend, aye?
ygs-30/f
(Rating: 5) thank you so much. when we went to therapy, i never mentioned the control issues yet, and i definately will! thank you for letting me know that i DO have a valid point and that im not just being rediculous and, like him, controlling. thanks again.