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so...i've been with my bf for almost 6 months now.. we've had our ups and downs... believe me on that one... but no matter what we seem to find out way back to eachother... lets cut to the chase.. me and him are not virgins.. but me and him have not had sex yet... and he's real sensitive on the subject.. i know guys LOVE sex bla bla... but, why is he so sensitive when it comes to sayin no? i understand, but it;s not like im teasing him or working him up on purpose... im not leading him on... i dont understand =( im not going to give in just because he;s sad... but i also dont wanna push him away or make him feel neglected... what should i do... say? p.s he's a very jealous guy so explanations make things worse sometimes... he's impatient as well lol thanks a bunch!!!

You need to stand your ground, here. It takes two willing participants to have (and enjoy) sex, and no matter how badly he wants it or "needs" it, he needs to wait until you're ready. It doesn't matter if you've had sex in the past--This is a new relationship with a new man, and you need time to grow accustomed to him.

You should obviously never be mean to him, but don't feel the need to sugar-coat you saying no. If he can't accept that you don't want to have sex after six months, then he doesn't belong in a relationship with you.

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(Rating: 5) thank you...you're right

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