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Well, i went out w/ this guy for 2.5 months, and then i broke up w. him, cause he said to another girl i'll break up w/ her if you'll go out w/ me, and then i broke up w/ him and then he said that that was a stupis reason to break up w/ him, and then he started going out w/ another girl (who's one of my best friends) not even to days after we broke up. And now i lke another guy. And i think that my ex is mad at me, so would you be mad and do you have any good advice about how to ask out a guy?

You did the right thing by breaking up with him. He basically asked another girl out while he was still going out with you. And in a way, that's like cheating. (What he should've done is break up with you first, and then talk to the other girl about going out). So no, your reason was not stupid at all. It was completely justified.

So anyway... now you like someone else. And your ex has a new girlfriend. So does it really matter if he's mad at you? He has no reason to be! Your relationship is over - because of him - and you're both moving on. So don't let him get into your head and control your emotions. Focus on the future and this new guy you like. At some point, you might be able to be friends with your ex again, but that will probably take some time. In the meantime, put him behind you and look toward what's ahead of you.

As for asking a guy out... I'm sorry I don't have any good advice on that, because I'm kinda old fashioned that way. I think guys generally prefer to do the asking out, and in my experience, it usually works out better if you let them. But not everyone agrees with me, and I know lots of girls ask guys out and it works out fine. I just don't have much good experience with it, so I'll let someone else answer that part of your question.

Good luck! =]

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