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hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??
I want you to do something for me. Take a look at this website and try using your phone number in some of the searches it mentions. http://ezinearticles.com/?Reverse-Phone-Numbers:-How-To-Find-Free-Reverse-Phone-Numbers&id=472938. If you can find your own address, or one of the sites says it knows your address and requires you to pay to reveal it, this man can EASILY find you. If not, check out what the article says about private detectives. How easy is that? Phones can be tracked. They put out a signal and use towers to make their calls. If you watch crime shows, you would know that when someone makes a call with a cell phone, the call can be tracked almost to an exact location. Anyone can find out anything if they have enough resources and enough desire. Information is everywhere. If you'd done your own research you would know you are not safe just like the rest of us know it. If this man wants to find you he WILL. It's clear that everyone on this website is concerned with your safety. You came here looking for advice and when you are given it, you choose not to believe it. Get a grip and listen up to what so many people are saying. How can you disagree with us all? You need to start listening to some sense. How can you trust your own judgment after what you've already done? YOU ARE NOT SAFE and you need to do something to change that immediately. Bad things happen to people and you've put yourself in a really precarious situation.
You are really naive if you think he can't find you. Phones can be tracked.
You know what, unlike what another columnist suggested you do not need a cell phone. End of story. You can't tell me that you are that materialistic and so reliant on a luxury piece of technology. What would life be like if you didn't have a phone? Honestly, it would be fine. Now, yes, it's a great idea to find a way to make money to pay for your phone. That shows that you're responsible and hard working. However, are you serious? Is this really the only possible way you could think of to make money? Get a job! Mow people's lawns for crying out loud. I hope you realize how dangerous it is for you to be sending these pictures to this man. You must have given him some kind of information about yourself in order for him to get the money to you. BAD MOVE. If he doesn't already know, he could easily figure out where you live. You are in this too deep now to just quit what you are doing. You need to confide in an adult. If not your mom, a counselor at your school. You need to make sure that you are going to be safe if you all of a sudden just tell this guy that he's not going to get any more pictures. Which you need to do. I'm not even advising you on this one, I'm telling you. I'm being completely honest here, I don't think that you are safe. If he has your phone number he can find you. That is why it is especially important to let an adult know and let them help you with this. Now, about the boyfriend, if you stay with him you will have to tell him eventually. I agree with you in that I don't consider it cheating. It's still pretty bad though and something he should know about just the same if you end up marrying him and stuff. That's pretty far down the road and lets be honest here, anything could happen between now and then so don't bring this up just yet. He may not be mature enough to understand yet. If you're still together in your early to middle twenties, that would be the time to let him know. The text, why not just tell him it was a wrong number? That's pretty understandable. It happens all the time to me, that's for sure. Overall, you have some crucial decisions to make here. You can either continue living a life of prostitution and lies, or you can get off your butt, go out and earn your money how everybody else earns it. If you don't pick the second choice, sorry, but you are going to be poor for the rest of your life and you're going to look back to this moment and wish you had made the right decision. Please get help. You may think that nothing bad could happen to you, but you are wrong. Don't put it off either. End this today.
(Rating: 4) well i live in the country 10 miles from anyone..mowing lawns is obselete. but, i found a job. it wasnt a matter of me being too lazy..i applied at every restruant and store in my town. but the boyfriend thing, the number was in my contacts, so i couldnt say it was a wrong #. and this guy, he doesnt have any of my information exept my phone number. i have virgin mobile (pay-as-u-go) so he buys cards and texts the code to me. and im planning on telling my bf..a looong time from now lol. thanks anyways :)