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My parents are fighting. They are not considering a divorce but one in a while they just go at each other. It's really sad and since i am the oldest i want to do something about it. My little sisters get sad and cry when they fight and i want to help them. What can i do to make them realize what they are doing wrong? They both blame each other for things but truthfully it is always equally both their fault! I really need some good advice. Please don't give me the "talk to them" answer because right know i don't want to start anything else. Please help me. I really want to fix this becuase everytime they fight it bring up all these past things from like 15 years ago! Who cares about those things! Please help me. (sorry if this is long, i just feel very unstable and sad right now).

Well, you probably won't be able to stop your parents from fighting. But you might be able to stop them from fighting in front of you and your sisters. I know you said you don't want the "talk to them" answer... but what about writing them a note? You could say something like:

"Dear Mom & Dad, I'm sure you don't realize this, but sometimes when you get in a fight, it really scares and worries us. I know that there are times you disagree about things, and that every couple fights sometimes, but if it's possible to wait until we're not around, it would really make us feel better. We love you both and it just hurts to see you get angry with each other."

I'm sure they already realize that nasty fights in front of their kids are disturbing... and they probably feel pretty guilty about it. But when they're caught up in the heat of the arguement, they might forget that. So giving them a gentle reminder really might help. After reading your note, hopefully they'll make a pact, for your sake, to try a bit harder to keep things civil in front of you and your sisters.

Good luck!

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