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because..I had a dream that I kissed a previous crush...previous to my actual boyfriend..meaning that..i didn't kiss my boyfriend in my dream..but kissed someone who I used to like. =X And I mean..I still like him..but I have a boyfriend..and this just makes me doubt my relationship with my boyfriend even more! (We're having some trouble in our relationship, actually...)
can it mean anything? 16/f. my boyfriend's 16 and the guy in the dream is 16..lol this is a bit ridiculous..but it might mean something..o_o

Well, here's how dreams work. When you're awake, you have a bazillion thoughts and feelings running through your mind all day long. But a lot of those things you don't have the time, or the desire, to really sit down and "think" about. So they stay buried in your subconcious. But they're still there, and your mind needs to deal with them. So it deals with them while you sleep.

As you said, you've had a crush on this guy... but since you have a boyfriend, you've probably pushed those feelings to the back of your mind, because you feel guilty thinking about it. But the feelings are still there, so your mind explores them in your dreams.

Is that bad? Not at all... it's totally normal. Having a boyfriend, even if you're totally in love with him, doesn't stop you from being attracted to other guys. That can even happen when you're happily married. It doesn't mean you don't care for or love your boyfriend... it's just a natural feeling that you can't help. What you CAN help is whether or not you act on it. If you did, then yes, that would be cheating. But just dreaming about it isn't cheating, because you didn't actually do anything wrong... you didn't even mean to dream it!

So don't worry about it. Dreams don't mean anything except that your mind is working stuff out.

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(Rating: 5) Thank youuuu! Quite the helpful info :]

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