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Why is it that some fellow advicenators tell young girls and boys it is okay to have sex or do other sexual acts "if they feel that they are ready" when they know that it is wrong. I believe they are just looking to get good ratings, do you agree? I'd much rather tell them the truth, that they are TOO YOUNG and have NO IDEA of potential consequences BESIDES pregnancy and get a lower rating than tell them it's okay. Am I the only one?
I suppose this can be seen as purely subjective, but is there anyone out there at or about my age (20) who thinks it's ok for 12 year olds to go around having oral sex and/or intercourse?
No, I doubt there are many people here who think it's okay for young teens to be doing that stuff. Most of us probably think they AREN'T ready for it, even if they think they are. But I don't think people say "it's okay if you think you're ready" just to get good ratings. I think they say it because they're afraid of sounding judgemental.
We've all had it drilled into our heads for so long that we should be accepting of everyone; that we shouldn't judge anyone or try to force our beliefs on others. We've been taught since Kindergarten that just because someone has different beliefs, it doesn't mean they're wrong. And that's a good thing, to some extent. But unfortunately, the idea has become so ingrained in our society that people are afraid to say what they really think about anything, for fear of offending someone. And if we DO actually give our honest opinion, we feel we have to add a disclaimer: "Well, I think it's wrong... but if YOU think it's right, then it's okay."
Add to that our paranoia about harming a kid's self-esteem. We certainly can't tell them they're doing something wrong or bad or stupid, because it might make them feel bad about themselves!
Well, sometimes it's a GOOD thing to feel bad about yourself... or at least about what you've done. That's how you learn not to make stupid mistakes that will hurt you or others. But if there's no fear of being judged or looked down on or shunned for doing something wrong, what's to stop people from doing it? If no one says it's wrong, then it must be okay. And that's a real shame. Because some things ARE wrong, no matter how you look at it... and a 12 year old giving a blow job is one of them. But if no one has the guts to come out and say it, then of course kids will do it and think it's okay.
Wow, that was a lot longer than I intended!
(Rating: 5) thank you very much for your opinion. it's about time someone says what they think :)