I've been in this relationship with my boyfriend for nearly three years now. I'm 18, he's 22. I'd like to call it serious, but it's the first relationship I've had that I would even consider calling it serious, so I don't know for sure.
My question is this: when, if at all, would be a good time to talk to him about the future? I mean it's pretty obvious we're going to be together a long time. Since we're both in college now, I feel like it would be a good idea to at least have some general outline for the future of our relationship, as in whether we're going to get married or not and basically what our future goals are.
Of course I don't want to put things in stone, but I've wanted to talk about this with him for awhile and I just don't know if it's a good time.
Early in our relationship, like pretty much all couples do, we would talk about our house and kids and stuff, but only in a cute way and I don't consider that as being serious.
Advice? Similar situations?
It seems that now is the perfect time to talk about your future, since you are both in a transitional time of life. It is important at this stage to find out if your life goals mesh and to at least obtain a general idea of where you both want to be in 2, 5, and 10 years.
It would be great to cover areas such as the future of your relationship (getting married, having kids), housing (living together, renting, buying), careers (both having jobs, homemaking).
Obviously, nothing has to be permanently decided on right away. A nice chat over coffee or tea, or while taking a walk, or any other way you like to casually converse, could easily give you a picture of what you both really want out of life.
Good luck!
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Thanks so much!
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