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15(F)
I'll be 16 in a few weeks.(Feburary 7th)
My boy friend is 17 (a year and a half older)
First off I just want to thank all of you in advance for reading. I really appreatiate you taking the time! But please refrian from bias opinons. Please don't judge my choices or tell me I'm wrong. I'm just looking for honest advice (experiance recomended)

ok well let me start by saying my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. I am totally in love with him and this will sound stupid, but I really feel that he will be the man I marry. He's my best friend, but also one of hte only people I trust. (Here's where you won't judge me! =0])

We're not sexually active as of right now. We do alot of foreply but no sex.

The other night, we were in my basement and we just really started going at eachother. We were both totally turned on. So after a little foreplay, I asked him if he wanted to try to have sex. He always keeps a condom on him...just in case anything ever happens. He said "Yea, but only if you're sure you're ready. I am a virgin, so is he.

One of the reasons I'm in love with him is because the way he looks out for me. He always makes sure I'm comfortable with what we're doing, and that he's careful.

I said I wanted to, so he put the condom on. I was really scared/nervous since I'm no on birth control. He said that he wouldn't cum in me, but he would still use the condom. He also wants me to be on birth control.

The second after, my mom yelled down to tell me something and I felt a little releavied. I just was so scared about getting prenant, I forgot how much I wanted to share this moment with him. I kept asking him what he was thinknig but he seemed to maintain composure. Is his age at all a difference as to why he was so calm?

This has happened a few times in the past week where we have ALMOST had sex. About 3. This was the closest.

So the mood was gone and we stoped. I felt bad because I know we're both ready and he really loves me. A few days after I told him that i felt relieved, and he told me I probably wans't ready. He doesn't mind waiting. He said he'd wait forever.

Sorry for the lenght!
but here are my main questions!

Will he change after sex...will our realationship be any different?

Are there any ways I can approach the birth control situation with my mom?

Will I get pregnant if I'm on birth control, he uses a condom, and he pulls out?

PLEASE HELP!
Sorry for the length
Please don't judge!

Thanks in advance.
I will rate you!

Since you asked this question, you obviously aren't ready for sex. You can be completely in love with someone, but not be ready to lose your virginity with them. Sex is something important. Once you lose your virginity, it's lost to that person. You don't get it back. Would marriage be the appropriate timing? Yes, but is that likely? Probably not. You need to discuss all the details with him. If you both love each other like you say, your relationship should not change after sex. Could you become closer? Yes. Could you become farther apart? Yes. Just because you have sex though, doesn't mean your relationship will automatically be better. It could get better, it could get worse, it could stay the same. It's up to both of you whether or not your relationship becomes different. You have to consider and realize all of the consequences. Pregnancy and STDS are both possible outcomes. If you have sex, you always have a chance of becoming pregnant, whether or not you use birth control or a condom. 99% effective is not 100% effective. There has been people that used a condom and birth control and still became pregnant because either they weren't used properly or didn't know what they were doing. They aren't 100% effective. The pull-out method however is not 99% effective. That's basically a myth and should not be used as a technique to avoid pregnancy or stds. Consider all the possible consequences before you make any decisions. You should be able to talk to your mom about this openly. She's a woman and was your age once so she'll understand and will be able to relate to you. If she doesn't want you going on it, respect her decision. Your her daughter, she most likely knows what's best for you. Once you are 18 though, you can pretty much decide for yourself. Talk to your boyfriend about it though.

-hope that helped!♥

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