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we're planing to move in together and we are both excited... our parents are fine with it and all but i just have a question... as a girl is there anything anyone could tell me about moving in with a guy? i mean the quirks? when we sleep together the light? the bathroom? habits? i don't know, all the stuff that bug married people when they start to get to know each other at first? i don't know how things are going to be and i am very careful and hate the unknown so i'd like to be prepared for these things so I'd like to have some kind of first hand experienced person telling me how it's like... i really love this guy and don't want to loose him over tiny dumb things... i really believe he's the one...
Well, if you're about to move in together, you probably have a pretty good idea of his basic personality. That is, I'm sure you already know whether he's a slob, a neat freak, or somewhere in between. It's the quirky little habits that will only reveal themselves after you've started living with him.
The main thing to remember is: you're both coming from different home environments, and you're both used to doing things a certain way. Chances are, some of those things will be different, perhaps even opposite extremes. For instance, you may need total darkness to sleep, and he may need a light on.
The key is compromise. You both have to be willing to accept that neither one of you can have your way with everything.
There will be some things that you can reach a happy medium on. For example, if you both HATE cleaning the toilet, you can take turns to make it fair.
But some things will have to be either your way or his way. If you need silence to fall asleep, but he needs the TV on, one of you will have to give in. So be selective in what you demand. If there's a certain thing you absolutely MUST have your way, you have to be willing to let him have his way with something else.
So talk about this before you move in. Let him know that you don't want to fight about silly little things, and make a deal with each other that you'll both be willing to give and take in order to make things work!
Good luck!
(Rating: 5) makes sense, thank you so much!