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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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I live with my fiancee (we're both students), and I'm sick of always coming home to a mess. Laundry hasn't been done in 3 weeks and our bedroom is a mess!
My program is incredibly demanding. I have over 30 hours of class a week plus a ridiculous amount of homework. He is taking two classes, for a total of 9 hours a week. All he does is stay at home playing video games, but he expects me to do at least half, if not most or all of the cooking and cleaning. He's never actually come out and said it, but it's what keeps happening. I can't just leave stuff, because he'll wear the same clothes for a week without thinking twice about it.
I've tried talking to him about it, and he always intends to help, but video games are far more appealing, apparently.
Any ideas on how to get more help around the house?
Video games are something for fun in your spare time. There isn't time to spare when clothes are dirty, dishes need washed, and you're hungry.
He has to learn that a part of caring about you is caring about himself AND the home you share. Since you work so long with school, and he works so little with school, why, he is the one who needs to be doing most of the home duties. Why? He has less responsibly outside of the home than you do by a large degree.
He needs to realize that if video games are more important than your home, then they are obviously more important than you, too, considering they cause him to not care about the work load he places on your shoulders.
If he is that obsessed with video games, then maybe he needs to consider selling them so he can join the rest of us in the real world.
Don't get me wrong, video games are a good way to step out of things for a while, but it is unhealthy when the consume you to a degree that you avoid your responsibilities.
He intends to help. Well, good intentions are only intentions.
ygs-29/f
(Rating: 5) I know this is an old question, but I'm going back and rating ones I hadn't yet. Turns out, it was unhealthy behaviour... he was thoroughly depressed.