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Well, my bf has a little drinking problem. Its not all the time, but when he starts he cant stop, but hes not dependant on drinking. He doesnt do it all the time. Well, one time he said he went to a poker party. I went out to a club with my girlfriends. While i was there, i danced with my girls. Well, this particular club had like little beds with a sheer curtain around it for people to hook up. Well, i saw this girl getting a little friskey with a guy, like shed known him for a while, well they closed the big black curtain, but before that she took off her clothes and so did he. I thought i saw my boyfriends face so i ran up there and i peeked through the black curtain. I saw the back of the guys head having sex with the girl, well he had long brown hair like my bf. I didnt want to seem like a pervert if it wasnt my bf, so i crept to the other side and saw it was my bf!!! I ripped open the curtains and was like WTF JAKE and hes like katie, come join, i love threesomes! and i was like WERE OVER. The next day he called me and didnt remember anything at all! I told him about it, and hes like well i was at my friends but i started drinking, and we ended up at the club...then all black, then i woke up in the club with no shirt on. I dont know what to do. I was like well were over, and he showed up with flowers, the next day with candy, the next with a diamond necklace. I think he really wants me back. Should i take him back, or kick him to the curb??

Don't take him back.

Being drunk is never an excuse. It's his own fault he drank that much. He was irresponsible. Furthermore, alcohol actually reduces sexual drive. "I was drunk hunny!" is not an excuse. ever.

He also needs to realize that he drinks to much. You leaving him is a wake up call he needs to recieve. He has a problem, and maybe now that you're gone he can see what his drinking does to others.

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(Rating: 5) I told him that i was leaving him, and he freaked out, but a week later he was desperate enoguh that his friend who hates me begged me to take him back that he was hysterical. I told him that i would give him another chance, but if ANY red flags popped up, im dumping his ass. He hasnt gone out with the boys since.

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