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"Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains..." -Poison, Every Rose Has It's Thorn.
My name's Ammo and I'm here to give any help or advice on anything that I can. :] Firstly, if you were kind enough to come here and read up on me, I thank you.
I've been through a lot when it comes to relationships and life in general. I've seen and heard many things and have always felt it's nice to be able to share my experiences (both good and bad ones) with as many people as I can in the hopes that I can help others not make the mistakes I've made (and sometimes still make). Who knows, maybe there's a lesson or two I can learn from you as well.
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Hey!, I'm Ashley. I'm 16.
i've known my this boy Henry for almost three years. He is friends with some of my best guy friends. We flirted on and off for about two years but never went out because we hardly saw each other. This past summer Henry started hanging out with my neighbor and best friend Ryan who i've known my entire life. This put him closer and we saw each other more and more. Then he asked me out and we were dating for two and a half months. we recently took a break but now we both want to get back together but Ryan now likes me as more than a friend and is jealous of Henry. When ever he can he tries to separate us, and tells me lies about Henry. He advises me not to take him back. I only see Ryan as a friend so I don't have feelings for him but I don't want to lose him either. I feel that he will get very angry is Henry and I start up again as a couple. I don't know what to do.. advice please? :)
thanks so much-
Ashley
Hi Ashley.
I think to be totally honest in some ways you've already lost Ryan as a friend at least in the sense of what he was before because he is lying to you about things and such in the hopes you will now go out with him instead of get back together with Henry.
I think firstly you, and no-one, should have to choose between a friendship and the person they want to be with purely over jealousy - which is what this is. If you really do like Henry and want to get back together with him then i think you should do. At the end of the day if you don't just because you're afraid how Ryan will feel or react you are giving into his tantrum and in effect putting your own life on hold simply because he cannot accept the truth. You shouldn't have to do this especially since you only see him as a friend. Talk to him and tell him you only see him as a friend and nothing more. If you are going to get back with Henry then dont lie to him and then let him decide what he wants to do from there. It might just be it's painful for him to see you with Henry in which case just give him some time and he will soon get over it.
Under no circumstances though should you not do what you want to do simply because you don't want to make Ryan angry or mad at you. He is being manipulative by using his friendship with you to sway your decision on what to do when it comes to Henry (like him saying not to take him back). If Henry had treated you bad or just dumped you out the blue and such i can understand why he may not like you seeing him again but if none of this is the case then his opinions on what you should do are simply biased.
Good luck.
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thank youuu :)
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