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I can't go places or do things by myself without feeling incredibly self-concious and uncomfortable. I was talking to an older family friend of ours today and he said that to stop being so self-concious and everything that the thing that will probably change me is meeting a boy.
He says I need to find what I am good at and really get into it so I can find someone with similar interests.
How do I find what I'm good at?
Well, I sort of agree with your friend. Finding something you enjoy and can really get involved with is a great way of meeting people with similar interests. And not just guys, but girls too who can become friends and enrich your life. And it's not just about meeting people. Being immersed in something you enjoy just makes you happy!
But you don't necessarily have to be GOOD at something in order to feel good about yourself.
A lot of people think that the only way to be happy or feel good about yourself is to be REALLY GOOD at something -- even the best. And if they don't find something that they really excel at, they feel like a failure. But that is soooo not true! The fact is, not everyone is gonna be super talented at something. We all have certain things we're better at than others, but most of us are just "okay" at a lot of different things. And that's fine! As long as you enjoy what you're doing, just do it for the pure enjoyment of it! Who knows... you may discover a hidden talent at some point, but if you don't, that's nothing to feel bad about.
One more thing. This might sound kinda weird, but... I was at this old cemetery and I was reading some of the tombstones, and one of them said simply, "Harry Smith - He was a Good Friend." And I was like WOW! What a great thing to have someone say about you! Of all the things that could be said about someone -- they were successful, they accomplished blah blah blah -- this just seemed more meaningful than any of those things. So my point is... whatever you do in life, being a nice, decent person is probably the best accomplishment of all... and that can really make you feel good about yourself.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much,
That was actually very inspirational and made me think.
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