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I met this nice Italian guy on Myspace,
and he wanted to know if we could talk
over MSN, so of course, I was like, sure.
He seemed really nice but then he wanted to
get on his webcam, so I said alright.
I've watched other people (non-sexually) on webcam.

Of course I had to tell him: don't strip or anything,
and he said he wouldn't, but then I guess he
changed his mind and took all his clothes off?
I felt weird saying "No" and he obviously wasn't
going to take "No" for an answer.
Oddly, I watched him but felt really nervous the whole time.

Not to sound like a dork or anything,
but I've never really seen a guy close up naked.
However, I was kind of disgusted with this naked guy.
I was also really scared, which is weird,
because most of my friends have actually
had sex with a guy and obviously they are
comfortable with even more than just looking at that!

Is this usual? Is it ok to feel a little freaked out by...male parts?
I am really boy crazy and I love guys, so why
do I freak out so much if I see a naked guy?
What if I'm a Lesbian?

And by the way, I won't be watching that
guy on webcam again so don't worry!

Okay, first of all... male parts ARE pretty freaky looking! I mean, think about it: they have organs hanging outside their body, instead of inside where organs are supposed to be! Weeiirddd! hahahaa

But seriously, I think your reaction was completely normal for the situation. You were looking at some random guy who was obviously trying to turn you on (or more likely, turn himself on by stripping in front of some girl). You were uncomfortable with it, and I think most people in your situation would be thinking "ewwww!"

But don't worry. You won't always have that reaction. When you're with someone you really love, it's completely different! When it's someone you love, and care about, and are completely comfortable with, it's not going to bother you. It's just a part of the person you love. Trust me... you really don't need to be worried about it!

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