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im 16/f. i have to admit that usually i am one to let things get to me, and i've been trying to change that lately. in my school, the other girls treat me with such hostility, mainly because of racism, and i learned to deal with it. but now this one specific girl has taken some kind of negative interest in me, and getting her friends to do the same. all she does is just stare at me as if i've ever done something to her, and when she walks by, she comes real close as if trying to bump into me. it's really tormenting me even though i try to hide it. i don't know why, cause im not even scared of her. i just wish she would stop. and worse, i have to see her everyday, and if i tell anyone, they'll just think i'm being stupid. it's bothering me so much, i just basically feel like shit all day. any insights on how i can get my mind off it?
Well, this might sound like a crazy idea, but it just might help. It sounds like this girl doesn't know you that well, or at all. But maybe if she were to get to know you better, even a little, she'd come to see you as a person who has feelings. Not that you'd end up being best friends, but maybe it would make her stop being so blatantly mean to you.
Soooo... how to get her to know you? This is where my crazy idea comes in. Go to your councelor or a teacher you like, and talk to her about it. Be sure to say that your goal is not to get this girl in trouble, but to find a way to make things better. Say that you think if this girl could get to know you a little, she might stop being so mean. And then ask if the councelor/teacher could arrange to have you and this girl work together on something. Doesn't matter what... a project, or assisting a teacher in some way, or whatever... but something where it's just you and her together, working on something for some period of time.
And then once you're with her, just be really, really nice! Act like you've never even noticed that she's been mean to you. When she's there with you, just the two of you and away from her friends, she probably won't be mean at all. And afterwards, it might not feel so good to her to be mean to you.
I really think that could work, because I've seen it happen before. When I was coaching gymnastics, I sometimes paired up girls who obvisously didn't like each other. But once they were stuck together for some reason, things seemed to get better. So give it a try! It might help!
(Rating: 5) wow, i never even considered doing it this way! its actually a wonderful idea, thank you =]