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Ok so I met this guy online. I never talk to anyone I dont know online this is the first one ever. Im 16, hes 20. I know it sounds stupid, but I really like him. I never gave him my address or last name. After I talked to him awhile online i gave him my cell phone number and we've been talking alot. I wanted to meet him at the mall this weekend but it didnt work out. Ive never done anything like this ever, and am not that kind of girl. Im very close with my parents and tell them everything. Ive never been in a real realationship. I think i might be over my head. Im not too into him and ive been trying to be realistic.

My real problem however is that I told my mom today. She is furious. She told me that I have endangered our family, that he can figure out our adress from giving him my number, and that she cannot believe how stupid I am. I read an article in seventeen about a girl who met someone online and talked to him on the phone and had her parents meet him and that everything was OK. I tried to find that article but i cant...

Im so sorry this is so long, rambling, and sounds stupid but im really upset. Please help

I know you like him and all, but a 20 year old should not want to be with a 16 year old. He is probably a few years older than what he said too. Do you remember who told their age first? People always lie about their age online, always. Your mom is right in that he can figure out a lot about you with just your cell number. He's probably not the type of person to do that, but from now on, don't give out your number to anyone no matter how nice they seem. Your mom shouldn't be angry that you told her, she should be glad, but she does know what she's talking about. No matter how much you like this guy it's time to face reality. Even if all he says is true, the relationship isn't going to work out. Plain and simple. If it's not gonna work out there's no point in having it especially with the potential dangers. It is so easy to sound like such a great person online. It's easy to fall for someone that seems like a great person. Don't take the easy road here, take the smart one. It's just not worth it. He's not the only guy that's right for you. The circumstances surrounding him just aren't right so just move on. Don't meet him and please stop talking to him. If you do do something foolish and set up another meeting with him out of false hope, DO NOT go alone. Always bring a friend along and never go anyplace with him no matter what. Maybe he's who he says he is and maybe he's not. It doesn't really make a difference. You need to make the right choice here and let him go. I know it's hard and it is going to hurt, but it's what needs to be done. Better to hurt now than to hurt worse later on. Good luck.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice...im just worried ill miss out on something that could have been great, and that if i dont meet him ill never find out...

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