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I'm really confused as to why all of these teenagers on here keep saying that they like this guy, but they want to get to know him. I don't understand how you can like a guy that you don't know. Maybe I'm just not shallow, but I'm 14 and that's the age that most people who post those questions are and I've never liked someone without knowing them first. I mean aren't you suppose to get to know someone and then decide you like them. Every hot guy that you see isn't someone you like, right? I mean I only like guys that I know and I like them based on their personality. Sure, I think guys are hot, but I don't like them. I don't even know them. lol I guess what I'm asking is if I'm weird or what?
Yeah, you are weird. But in a good way. :)
Weird, basically means different. Sadly, it's pretty normal for teens to believe that they like people without even knowing them. Most teenagers don't have fully developed minds yet. You're a little ahead of the pack in that department. Teenagers tend to live in a type of fantasy world where they are the center of it and lust and love are the same thing. Things like love or liking people are very complex. Most teens don't have the mental capacity yet to understand their feelings and make the right choices in accordance to those feelings, but they, of course, think they do, more than anybody else and that their feelings are completely new and unique to them, when everybody's felt the exact same thing sometime before. You, on the other hand, are a little more mentally mature than your peers. This is a great thing, but could cause a few problems for you. These problems revolving around the fact that you are severely more mature than any guy that you might decide to date. Guys are less mature as it is, then add the fact that you're extra mature, and it might be kind of difficult. It might not be a problem, but keep all this in mind when you do enter into a relationship. You may have to cut your significant other some slack for just not being as smart as you about feelings and relationships (for lack of a better way to put it). Whatever you do, don't date guys that are way older than you to try to balance it out. It's better to be mentally superior than physically and socially inferior if you catch my drift. Anyway, try not to worry about other people. There will always be stupid people out there. Don't judge yourself by their actions and keep doing what you're doing. You're right! :)
(Rating: 5) aw, thanks :)