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okay so the other night, i met up with my new boyfriend at this elementary school thats close to our house to just hang out. my younger sis came, and two of his friends and mine that i knew from 7th grade ( we're all in 11th now) were there too. now its been since june that ive seen him because he was in nc with his sister, staying with his dad for a large portion of the summer since his parents are divorced.
so my sis and i were there and my boyfriend is in the middle of giving me a hug when we see my dads car pull up. he gets out and its soo obvious he was mad.
so my sister and i get home, and my dad lectures me telling me that i should call and tell him who i hang out with. and he was also bugged about how my boyfriend "had his paws on me"
My mom gets home from work that night and the first thing she did was come in my room and ask for my cell phone. i give it to her because i knew she would look at it to see if there were any from him.
later that night, she was saying how she doesnt want me hanging out with scum like him. she assumes that since his friend isnt big into education like we are that my boyfriend is the same.
she is finding every possible reason for herself to not like him. since im going into a better private school that costs well over 10 grand, she believes he's going to "distract" me from getting good grades.
yesterday she was mentioning how i should date people who have money and are close with their family. this really made me angry because back when my mom and dad were dating, my dad couldnt afford much and he was not close with his family.
shes basicaly told me she doesnt want me to see him. my boyfriend and i have known each other since 7th grade but we've been talking for about a year and before he left for NC we were quite close and we have strong feelings for each other. we've both decided to fight through all this.
I justt need help with how i can convince my mom to allow me to hang out with him?
has this happened to you before? what did you do?
thanks very much.

Talk to your mom. Tell her you really like this guy and you want her to give him a chance. Say that if he does distract you from school she can forbid you from seeing him. Tell her she doesn't know him and that she would probably like him once she did. Also remember to mention this- she needs to trust you. You know who to hang out with and who not to.

After this, she may agree or she may scream and yell. If she screams and yells write it in a note and give it to her once she calms down.

As for your second question, no, I've never been in this situation. However, I know how to deal with parents.

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