BIOGRAPHY:
My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
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If you like my advice and have additional questions for me, click on the link right underneath this profile that says "Ask Me A Question." If you leave your follow-up question for me in my feedback, I have no way of replying to it. Please use the link. Also, I have an e-mail address where people can get in touch with me if they need to. Feel free to use it.
IMPORTANT:
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ABOUT ME:
Here are some facts about me. I like pop music (especially Madonna). I like horror movies (especially Scream). I like to chat (on MSN). I love to write (poetry, screenplays, short stories). I love shopping (Best Buy). I'm a gamer (I'm better than a guy - Xbox 360 all the way). I have a MySpace (Click "Ask Carrie" for the link). I love my doggies (I have 2). I'm not a bitch (...well, sometimes). I love to laugh (and sometimes I pee a little when I do). It happens.
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Age: 25
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months today. So that makes today our "big seven month anniversary thing" lol Well, I'm here at home and he is at the lake...He swore to me that he'd be here every month on the 28th to celebrate our monthly thing. But he's not.
Today my old best friend whom I havent seen in ages wants to come over and ask me about some entertainment business stuff (we both sing) and inquire about how to get an agent and how to get his name out there. And as you have noticed, he is a guy. My boyfriend absolutely hates him...I can kind of see why, because before we became best friends, I had a little crush on him. And last summer we spent every waking moment together, he stayed over here most nights to practice duets, to learn more about vocal stuff, and to just hang out. But I dont know what to do because my boyfriend said that if he ever found out that Daniel came over to my house while we were dating he'd end it. But our relationship is strictly platonic! Throughout all those days and nights last summer, he never so much as tried to hold my hand. But he's just a really good friend and listener. I'm unsure of what to do and any suggestions would be greatly appreciated....Thanks so much! (link)
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Your boyfriend needs to get a grip. Not only does he have no right to tell you who you can and can't be friends with, but he isn't even around on a day that's very important to you. Why should he be out having fun and leaving you alone when you're not even allowed to hang out with your best friend who genuinely wants to keep you company? Also, if he threatens to end your relationship, you should be a lot more angry than you come across.
Your situation doesn't sound very fair to me, and if I were you, I would unleash my assertive side and tell HIM the way things are going to be. Tell HIM if he wants to spend an 8th month being your boyfriend, he has to pay more attention to you, be less demanding, and be more understanding of your friendship. If he can't accept your best friend, how can he accept you? It sounds like a recipe for disaster to me, and he needs to make some changes.
You have to stand up for yourself, especially in relationships. Don't lose yourself in him or in love. Be strong and do what feels right for you, and don't let anyone, especially a boy, dictate what that is. I'm really sorry you're alone on your anniversary. At least you're starting to see the kind of person he is on your 7 month anniversary and not your 7 year anniversary. Tonight, instead of celebrating your relationship, celebrate yourself.
You deserve it. :)
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wow. I've read some of your other responses and you give amazing advice. If its ok, could I just ask my questions to you from now on? Thank you so much!
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