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I really need help about my boyfriend and best friend...
16/f
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months today. So that makes today our "big seven month anniversary thing" lol Well, I'm here at home and he is at the lake...He swore to me that he'd be here every month on the 28th to celebrate our monthly thing. But he's not.
Today my old best friend whom I havent seen in ages wants to come over and ask me about some entertainment business stuff (we both sing) and inquire about how to get an agent and how to get his name out there. And as you have noticed, he is a guy. My boyfriend absolutely hates him...I can kind of see why, because before we became best friends, I had a little crush on him. And last summer we spent every waking moment together, he stayed over here most nights to practice duets, to learn more about vocal stuff, and to just hang out. But I dont know what to do because my boyfriend said that if he ever found out that Daniel came over to my house while we were dating he'd end it. But our relationship is strictly platonic! Throughout all those days and nights last summer, he never so much as tried to hold my hand. But he's just a really good friend and listener. I'm unsure of what to do and any suggestions would be greatly appreciated....Thanks so much!
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well i had this b/f and he hated my best freidn [[witch was a guy]] and he wooldnt let me and my frend ever hangout.... and so i finally told him to get over himslef and i dont choose who hangout w/ and finally he understood...
well it wasnt much but i hoped it helps
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He's the jelous type. Either explain to him to chill or leave him.
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Your boyfriend needs to get a grip. Not only does he have no right to tell you who you can and can't be friends with, but he isn't even around on a day that's very important to you. Why should he be out having fun and leaving you alone when you're not even allowed to hang out with your best friend who genuinely wants to keep you company? Also, if he threatens to end your relationship, you should be a lot more angry than you come across.
Your situation doesn't sound very fair to me, and if I were you, I would unleash my assertive side and tell HIM the way things are going to be. Tell HIM if he wants to spend an 8th month being your boyfriend, he has to pay more attention to you, be less demanding, and be more understanding of your friendship. If he can't accept your best friend, how can he accept you? It sounds like a recipe for disaster to me, and he needs to make some changes.
You have to stand up for yourself, especially in relationships. Don't lose yourself in him or in love. Be strong and do what feels right for you, and don't let anyone, especially a boy, dictate what that is. I'm really sorry you're alone on your anniversary. At least you're starting to see the kind of person he is on your 7 month anniversary and not your 7 year anniversary. Tonight, instead of celebrating your relationship, celebrate yourself.
You deserve it. :)
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