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"Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains..." -Poison, Every Rose Has It's Thorn.
My name's Ammo and I'm here to give any help or advice on anything that I can. :] Firstly, if you were kind enough to come here and read up on me, I thank you.
I've been through a lot when it comes to relationships and life in general. I've seen and heard many things and have always felt it's nice to be able to share my experiences (both good and bad ones) with as many people as I can in the hopes that I can help others not make the mistakes I've made (and sometimes still make). Who knows, maybe there's a lesson or two I can learn from you as well.
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15/f. Pardon me if this is long. But it's ruining my life.
Last year I was a really lonely and pathetic teenager. At 14, I had no friends I could trust, and all that revolved around my mind, was school and homework. And then I stumbled upon an online forum. There, I made lots of friends and became so much happier. I had gotten more social through the ways of the internet chatroom. The people there all shared my interests and were so nice and sweet to me. It was almost like a dream. I actually thought I was fitting in somewhere. Ever since, to this day, it has become an addiction. Particularly because of one guy. Let's call him "Vibrator". Vibrator is 3 and a half years older than me. That makes him...(well, you do the math, if I'm 15 1/2) And he lives in North America (as I do) He shares my music interests, hobbies and other things such as this. When he talks to me (and we have been talking online on MSN and AIM for a course of one year) he is always so sweet and sugary and amazing. I feel like I've known Vibrator forever. He always compliments me and tells me I'm pretty. It makes me feel amazing. But, I'm a bit paranoid, because I've only seen like ONE picture of him! And I'm always sending him pictures o.o And everything we discuss....personally..is always about me. So I feel as if...he wants to know about me, but never tells me about himself. Is he hiding something? I don't know what to do ! I'm so emotionally attached to him. And he flirts with other girls too, and then tells me later that he has no "sexual" feelings for me. He tells me that we should meet and he tells me he wants to. He manipulates and plays with my feelings. He really is ruining my life. I hate him, but at the same time I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him. But I'm so unsure. It's becoming an obsession talking to him. And he gets mad very frequently...when he does, I cry. He upsets me a lot. But then he apologizes and plays with me...like that. I cry over him. I can't tell this to anyone. Not even my best friend, because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I like someone online.
What should I do? Please. :( Any piece of advice would be helpful.
Hi. Don't worry about the whole liking someone online thing - I've been there before myself and I personally don't think it's anything to be ashamed of at all.
I want to say to stop talking to him and delete any way for you to contact him and vice versa because this guy is bad news and NOT something you want to be getting yourself involved with but for me to say that is easy than it is for you to just do.
There's a distinct pattern here with your involvement with this guy. You were someone who was without real friends or friends. Maybe someone who was looking for affection? Enter Vibrator who makes you feel the way you've always wanted to feel, says the things you've always wanted to hear - is almost the perfect person. The more a person will know about you the more knowledge they will have about you that they can use against you (when they say knowledge is power they really were not joking). He knows so much about you he now seems to have you trapped and maybe even wrapped up around him in a way that you're now finding it very hard to let go - exactly the thing he may have wanted. He is showing the distinct pattern of someone who might be classed as an Internet predator (at least by everything that I go by and what I've learnt of internet predators).
The facts here are that there's no telling who he actually is. He could be anyone whos used everything you've told him against you to get into your head. For your own safety I would suggest you sever any contact with this guy. If he persists then tell him you want nothing to do with him anymore and wash your hands clean of this guy. I can only hope you've not given away any details to him about yourself that may become something he could try use against you but provided you've not it's best to cut off contact now. If you have then don't worry because it doesn't mean he has you in a corner.
I know it's not going to be easy especially with the hold he has on you but you've sought out help and you can see something is wrong, this is a really good sign. There's many who never realise this until it becomes too late - believe me I know this since I have seen it many times. If you require any help or want to chat do give me a shout to my inbox and I'll try help any further if I can. I was going to refer you to a site where you could try and get a background on this guy to see if anyone else online has had any contact with him but I am still trying to search for the site (my main PC died - I'm now using a laptop). As I said, send me a message to my inbox should you require any further details or help and good luck.
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Wow, Thanks so much. This was EXTREMELY helpful.
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