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"Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains..." -Poison, Every Rose Has It's Thorn.
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what do you do when you realize you don't love your boyfriend?
this sounds horrible but im so lost
my boyfriend is so completely in love with me but i dnt feel anything for him... at all
i used to but it's been 6 months and he's lied to me so many times i just get disgusted by him now
and we've broken up 4 times and everytime lasted about a week then its back because he apologizes real well and promises to be better, it really destroys him when we break up and i never want to hurt him. breaking up never works, we always get back together! we were best friends for about a year before we ever started dating so i care for him but i don't love him, im sure of it.
i talk to him, he doesnt get it. the thing is we are so perfect for eachother but i don't feel it with him.
can i make myself love him?
If you really do feel there is nothing there anymore then you are only hurting yourself and him by actually forcing yourself to stay in a relationship that will eventually lead to just more hurt for both of you. Unfortunently just like you can't help who you fall in love with you can't force yourself to fall in love with someone. If you really want to try and help things then maybe a small break away from each other might help as well as give you a chance to think about things or maybe even having a romantic night out or something like that (something you both used to do when you both started seeing each other).
The thing is though that you mentioned he has lied to you a lot, that is a really bad thing for a relationship as it tends to eat away at the trust between the couple until it gets to the point you just can't trust the other person at all and you start to second guess everything they say or do. I believe once it gets to that point the relationship starts to take a very fast dive downwards which is probably what has been the flashpoint of the downfall and the cause of why you feel the way you do.
I think you should think things through and decide what it is YOU want. It's really nice that you do care about your boyfriend as well and that you don't want to hurt him but being in a relationship just for that reason is unfair to you and it's unfair to him, imagine how he will eventually feel when he finds out you've been with him so and so long and you never felt anything for him all that time? I won'tlie and yes it will be hard on him (as well as on you) but that's something you can't prevent. Relationships walk hand in hand with getting hurt, it's a part of the deal.
"The hardest thing about growing up is that you have to do what is right for you even if it means breaking someone's heart. Including your own."
--Author Unknown.
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