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My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
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Hi. I'm 15/f.
Well there's this guy who is friends with my older brother.
Anyways sometimes we "talk", but I like him as a friend. My brother thinks I like "like" him, but is ok with it.
We were supposed to hang out yesterday night, but I was too tired so I stayed home and said we could hang out today.
This morning I called him and we hung out-- and drove around for hours (it was a bit awkward).
When my brother got off work, we picked him up. Then I went to a church thing with my other friend (a girl).
Afterwards, my brother and the guy were being complete jerks. I mean, they usually tease us, but they've never been really mean to me before. It sounds stupid, but I cried (I don't think they saw, though).
My friend and I were going to hang out with them, but instead we just left.
So why was he like that (my guy friend)?
Thanks. (link)
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You have to remember that girls mature much faster than boys do even if the guy looks more mature physically. It can be very confusing for teenage girls because you see this guy who you're attracted to, and he's taller than you are, and it looks like he's an adult, which makes him even more appealing, but he's not an adult at all. In fact, most teenage guys still act like little boys. It's a truth that many girls have to learn the hard way.
The best thing you can do is to find a guy who's more mature and isn't friends with your brother. Guys are always going to be guys, and they need time to bond with their guy friends. By liking one of your brother's friends, you're exposing yourself to all the immature, hurtful, behind the scenes guy behavior you aren't supposed to see. I'm sorry you were hurt, and I'm very sorry that they made you cry. I'm sure that didn't feel good at all - you have my sympathy.
However, I'm afraid you're going to experience a lot of pain like this if you continue to express interest in your brother's friend. Boys their age can be mean, and you deserve to be with a guy who strives to be with a man, not a guy who enjoys being a little boy. So please don't feel like you were stupid. You weren't at all. You were naive and sincere - both can be very good qualities. You didn't know you were dealing with jerk. Now you know. You can do better.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you. I appreciate it (but I still feel like way I'm too sensitive...I don't know).
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