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Ok. I am going to use real names because I don't feel the need to hide this.
I have a friend Taylor. We have been good friends for a while. I also have a best friend Dave.
Dave and Taylor were together, but not going out. They really liked eachother, understandable right?
Taylor "broke up" with Dave, then hated him for the last 4 months. For no reason at all, just wouldn't talk to him and made fun on him constantly. Dave hurt for a while, but finally got over it.
Dave and I have been extremely close ever since we met. Dave and I now are kind of, as you can say, together.
Ever since Dave and I have been together, Taylor has been trying to talk to Dave again, and asks me ridiculous questions about me and him and what we do. She said that him her and can only be enemies, or lovers. So what does that mean? If she is trying to talk to him, that might mean she wants to be lovers with him.
She insists she is over him and does not want him, but why is she constantly asking me about it? And flipping out on me about him. I think she still has feelings for him, which is understandable. But she has hated him for 4 months, and Dave would try to talk to her, but she was just such a BITCH to him that he got over her.
It's not my fault me and him like eachother, we cannot control feelings. I understand where she is coming from because it is her ex, but still, they are over, and she knows it.
I don't know what to do. I do not what to loose either of them. Taylor is just being very immature about this and said she might as well go hook up with my ex boyfriend Justin, so I would know how it felt.
Dave and I have been through A LOT together. Like, a mad amount of stupid shit we have done and gotten in trouble for. Taylor seems like it is right to bring those mistakes up to make me sound like a bad person.
I tried talking to her so many times.
Now I am thinking I should just end it wtih Dave so this whole thing would stop, no matter how much I don't want to.
Someone please help me, I really don't know what to do. (link)
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You should have never started up with your best friend's ex no matter how over him she says she is. That wasn't a smart thing for you to do and is the quickest way to lose your friend forever. Unfortunately, even if you end the relationship with Dave, the damage has already been done. You're already the girl who takes her best friend's guy.
I don't think that Taylor is being immature. I think you're being immature (and naive) for expecting her to be OK with you dating her ex. Friends are supposed to support each other and be there for each other. Your actions have turned things into a competition. You have nobody to blame but yourself. I know you don't wanna hear this, but it's true.
I think you need to take some time alone to think about who is more important to you - Taylor or Dave. You can't have both. And you need to realize what you've done is wrong and be genuinely sorry about it - not because the repercussions are burdening you, but because you hurt someone who is supposed to be your best friend. I shutter to think of how you'd treat someone who's not your friend.
I've been in situations where my actions were really, really awful and I didn't think they were, and it took seeking advice from an outside source to make me realize that - yeah, I did a really shitty thing. So I'm not trying to make you think you're a bad person at all, because you're probably just someone who made a huge mistake, but you do need to know you did a really shitty thing that may not be fixable.
You're in a bad situation because you'll probably have to end things with Dave just to even get a chance to make things up to Taylor, and there's no guarantee that she'll even forgive you. You could end up alone. Or you can stay with Dave and leave your friendship behind, but chances are the relationship won't work and you'll have a hard time finding a best friend like Taylor. Best friends are hard to find. Boys are everywhere.
Good luck making your decision. I hope you can come to some kind of solution that leaves things peaceful between all three of you. :)
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thanks for your time to try and help...
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