BIOGRAPHY:
My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
CONTACT INFO:
If you like my advice and have additional questions for me, click on the link right underneath this profile that says "Ask Me A Question." If you leave your follow-up question for me in my feedback, I have no way of replying to it. Please use the link. Also, I have an e-mail address where people can get in touch with me if they need to. Feel free to use it.
IMPORTANT:
This may be a hobby in some people's eyes, but I don't like it when people waste my time regardless of whatever it is I'm doing, which in this case, is providing a free service out of the kindness of my heart. So please don't ask me stupid questions, and please make an effort to type sensibly so that I can read and understand your question. I know there are a lot of young people on this site, but that's no excuse to type like you're brain dead. Proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation is highly appreciated with me. The more intelligent your question is, the more intelligent of a response you'll get from me.
ABOUT ME:
Here are some facts about me. I like pop music (especially Madonna). I like horror movies (especially Scream). I like to chat (on MSN). I love to write (poetry, screenplays, short stories). I love shopping (Best Buy). I'm a gamer (I'm better than a guy - Xbox 360 all the way). I have a MySpace (Click "Ask Carrie" for the link). I love my doggies (I have 2). I'm not a bitch (...well, sometimes). I love to laugh (and sometimes I pee a little when I do). It happens.
Website: Ask Carrie
E-mail: soundslikepink@gmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: South Carolina
Occupation: What's that?
Age: 25
Member Since: June 10, 2007
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Last Update: September 13, 2008
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I'm actually really confident.
I think I look good, not great, but not horrible.. I dont mean this in a concieted way either.
Its just, I'm asian, and when I'm around other people I feel ugly.
I can't help it, I cant see why any guy would choose me over any of them, I know thats not the point.
But what can I do about feeling this way?
I only feel ugly around them, because everyone I see is goregous, young or old. I believe everyone is beautiful but myself.
help? (link)
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You seem like such a sweet girl who is beautiful on the inside and on the outside. Just from your brief question I can see many qualities that you possess that makes you beautiful to me. It's a shame you can't see them as well. You really need to start seeing the truth and get rid of the negative perceptions you have of yourself.
Unfortunately, it's very common for people to treat others better than they treat themselves. I do it too, and if I had to guess, you probably don't even have to try to see the beauty in others because it comes naturally. However, when it comes to yourself, the negativity comes naturally and all you can see are the flaws.
This kind of thinking does nothing but make us feel bad about ourselves and makes us feel like others are better than we are. This isn't true. This kind of thinking is a hopeless, self-defeating bad habit that you have to work on breaking. Most people don't recognize negative thinking as a bad habit, but that's exactly what it is.
Here's a good analogy that you might refer to when you're feeling down. Negative thinking is a lot like putting on a pair of sun glasses in the sun. The glasses might make everything look dark, but the sun is still out shining just as bright. When we think negatively, everything seems darker, but the positivity is always there - we just shut it out.
You have to learn to be nicer to yourself and more loving. Start focusing on the things you do like about yourself instead of on the things you don't. Constantly tell yourself that you're just as attractive as everyone else - because you are. You may not believe it at first, but practice makes perfect. Just like you've made negativity a habit, you can also make positivity a habit.
Just keep shutting out that negative voice inside your head that's lying to you, telling you things to make you feel bad about yourself. I guarantee you that these thoughts aren't true. With a little effort to be more positive to yourself and some patience to let the negativity subside, you'll see you're just as beautiful as you allow yourself to be.
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aww thank you, you hit it right on, negativity is my problem, and i went to a counsular to try to help, she gave me tips and stuff btu i havent esen for for a year about now, and its coming back, all this confidence I thought I had, suddenly vanished. But your advice was very helpful and beautiful, also inspiring thank you
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