BIOGRAPHY:
My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
CONTACT INFO:
If you like my advice and have additional questions for me, click on the link right underneath this profile that says "Ask Me A Question." If you leave your follow-up question for me in my feedback, I have no way of replying to it. Please use the link. Also, I have an e-mail address where people can get in touch with me if they need to. Feel free to use it.
IMPORTANT:
This may be a hobby in some people's eyes, but I don't like it when people waste my time regardless of whatever it is I'm doing, which in this case, is providing a free service out of the kindness of my heart. So please don't ask me stupid questions, and please make an effort to type sensibly so that I can read and understand your question. I know there are a lot of young people on this site, but that's no excuse to type like you're brain dead. Proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation is highly appreciated with me. The more intelligent your question is, the more intelligent of a response you'll get from me.
ABOUT ME:
Here are some facts about me. I like pop music (especially Madonna). I like horror movies (especially Scream). I like to chat (on MSN). I love to write (poetry, screenplays, short stories). I love shopping (Best Buy). I'm a gamer (I'm better than a guy - Xbox 360 all the way). I have a MySpace (Click "Ask Carrie" for the link). I love my doggies (I have 2). I'm not a bitch (...well, sometimes). I love to laugh (and sometimes I pee a little when I do). It happens.
Website: Ask Carrie
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Gender: Female
Location: South Carolina
Occupation: What's that?
Age: 25
Member Since: June 10, 2007
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I am 47 years old male and dated a woman of 34 for the last two years. Since we do live in different countries, we see each other about 4 moths a year. She is really nice and has the perfect temperament for us to have a good relationship.
However, since of late, I could not find a good erection t have sex with her. I performed oral sex on her, and what ever she does become ineffective for my erection.
I could have my blow jobs, and more importantly, I have had sex with other two other women since this problem started.
Obviously nothing wrong with me. My question is Has she lost her sex appeal towards me and if so what I can do get it back, since I love her and wants to be with her.
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If you're the one who's unable to get an erection with your girlfriend, why would you assume that it's her who has the problem? It seems like there's a good chance the problem may be you. Maybe you're just not attracted to her any more and that's why you can get an erection with other women but not her. There's more to attraction than just the physical stuff.
Maybe your mind is preoccupied whenever you get the chance to see her since you do live so far away from each other. The stress of traveling could be taking its toll on your concentration when you are being intimate with her. It sounds to me like there could be other issues in your relationship, especially if you're cheating on her with other people.
You should get yourself checked for sexually transmitted diseases. I'm sure some STDs could prohibit you from maintaining an erection in some instances. No matter how informed you think you are about people's sex lives, it's impossible for you to know for certain what they're doing or what they've done. The two women that you're cheating with or even your girlfriend could have other lovers.
As far as your girlfriend's sexual interest in you - it's hard for me to determine what could be going on without talking to her. Maybe distance is playing a factor and getting to be too much to handle. Maybe she wants a commitment. Maybe she wants to be with someone who isn't sleeping with two other women. I honestly don't know because it could be a lot of things, or it could just be you.
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Don't think the columnmist understood my question well. I never thought the problem is her. It is me. but instead of asking to get STD tests which we all do these days and or in additon we use condoms if sleeping with other women, she failed to address my real issue.
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