BIOGRAPHY:
My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
CONTACT INFO:
If you like my advice and have additional questions for me, click on the link right underneath this profile that says "Ask Me A Question." If you leave your follow-up question for me in my feedback, I have no way of replying to it. Please use the link. Also, I have an e-mail address where people can get in touch with me if they need to. Feel free to use it.
IMPORTANT:
This may be a hobby in some people's eyes, but I don't like it when people waste my time regardless of whatever it is I'm doing, which in this case, is providing a free service out of the kindness of my heart. So please don't ask me stupid questions, and please make an effort to type sensibly so that I can read and understand your question. I know there are a lot of young people on this site, but that's no excuse to type like you're brain dead. Proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation is highly appreciated with me. The more intelligent your question is, the more intelligent of a response you'll get from me.
ABOUT ME:
Here are some facts about me. I like pop music (especially Madonna). I like horror movies (especially Scream). I like to chat (on MSN). I love to write (poetry, screenplays, short stories). I love shopping (Best Buy). I'm a gamer (I'm better than a guy - Xbox 360 all the way). I have a MySpace (Click "Ask Carrie" for the link). I love my doggies (I have 2). I'm not a bitch (...well, sometimes). I love to laugh (and sometimes I pee a little when I do). It happens.
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Location: South Carolina
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Age: 25
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like i'm totally serious..... not even one!! you see, i go to this school that's all girls, and I guess I've never really gotten along with girls that well. But, someone the other day told me the reason why is because I'm very pretty and they're jealous of me. But, there's other pretty girls at my school, and they all have friends. But, I just feel a little bit lonely at school. Outside of school, I talk to people and stuff, and it's funny because I have a boyfriend but whenever I go online, all these guys IM me, and nobody from school talks to me, but I still feel bad. Why won't anyone hang out with me?? thank you (link)
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I've always had a hard time making friends, especially with girls. I think it's hard nowadays because we've all been brainwashed into believing stereotypes about each other. We all try to fit into these roles we're given, and when we're unable to play the part, we're seen as an outcast.
I don't know you, but I'd be willing to guess that you don't fit into any one group. You're probably a mixture of every group, which is an amazing thing to be and you should be proud of that. Unfortunately, in high school (I assume you're in HS), you get punished for it and it sucks.
I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but the truth is, it might not get better. People suck and high school is very difficult to get through. If you have any friends at all (even outside of school), you should consider yourself lucky. Try befriending those who truly have none.
The good news is that college is a very different experience. Something odd happens between high school and college. People become much more nicer and a lot more mature. The cliques have all broken up and everyone pretty much does their own thing. In short, you're going to love college.
Everyone is more open minded, and there's a greater feeling of acceptance. There is no "cool" or "popular" anymore. That pretty much stays back in high school where it belongs. Subsequently, the "popular" kids have a more time adjusting to college because there is no more prestige.
So please keep trying to look up and look forward. There's going to be brighter days ahead. It may not be today or tomorrow, but they're coming. And in the meantime, instead of waiting for friends to come to you, try getting out there and being the one who initiates friendships with others.
There's a bunch of people out there who're probably wishing that you would talk to them and be their friend. I hope this helps. Good luck. :)
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