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My name is Carrie, and I just recently turned 25. I've been told that I give excellent advice, so I created this column last year with the intention of helping as many people as possible. Although I do believe I succeeded, I ultimately turned my back on this column when I discovered just how cruel and thankless some people can be. Almost one year later a lot has changed. I've gained a whole new perspective on life and the world around me. I'm much more positive, sympathetic, and willing to listen when people truly need help. So now I've decided to come back and focus my attention on the individuals who are truly in need of advice.
ADVICE:
I'm very genuine when it comes to giving advice. I try to be sympathetic to the person asking the question, but I don't ever sugar coat things. I've learned quickly that many people who ask for help don't really want advice - they want someone who will say what they want to hear. Sorry, but you're not going to get that with me. I'm not here to make friends (if a friendship happens though, yay for me!). You'll always get the truth from me whether you like it or not. While the truth may sting just a bit to begin with, it will absolutely set you free in the long run. If you want to be lied to, please seek advice from somebody else.
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15 f (might be long jsut please bare with me, i will rate!)
ok so i broke up with my bf because i felt we didnt have communication anymore or trust. we were together for 9 months. i still really love him. i asked him for a break but he didnt want it. so now hes always online adn i have the urge to talk to him always, so i aimed him today and he was alwys liek being eman to me. so i told him why are you awlays mean to me like i did something horrible o you. and he said "omfg, the funny thing is that you ask me that! wtf, you know what you did" so he blocked me right after that. i know what i did and i feel horrible for brakign up with him but he had no trust. i still love him though. and i dont know what to do. i know hell unblock me, what should i do? any advice? comments? about us? anything? thanks (link)
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It was very mature of you to realize that you needed a break, but somewhere along the line your maturity took a dive and your emotions took over. It's completely normal to be sad, devastated, heartbroken, etc. after a break up (no matter who caused it), but you need to relax and calm down. Your pain will pass, and it's not the end of the world. If you needed a break and he couldn't comprehend the complexity of that, then you're too good for him anyway.
You need to stay in control of your emotions and your actions. Stop stalking him via AIM. If he's blocked you, he obviously needs some time away from you, and you have no choice other than to respect that. You're being a hypocrite now by not giving him the break he needs. You can get through this moment with or without your dignity, but if you ever want another chance to get back together with him, I would suggest getting a hold of yourself right now.
Don't turn this into some overly dramatic teen moment. Handle this heartache maturely - I guarantee you there's more heartache to come. You have to learn how to deal with it. Don't let the pain control you - you control it. If you continue to go on with your life and not let the pain overwhelm you, eventually it will begin to fade away, and your broken heart will begin to heal. Don't let him or this moment consume you. Stay focused on your goals.
You have your whole life ahead of you and the power to choose how big of a moment this will be. Choose to underreact instead of overreact. Don't feed the pain by dwelling on the situation or on him. Just keep living your life and time will take care of everything. You're not the first person to get their heart broken. I promise you, you'll be fine. You started this situation by making the mature decision, so end it the same exact way. Give him space and be patient.
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Rating: 5
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thnaks so much. i really needed to hear that. it stuck some sense into me thanks lottts lol.
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