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"Though its been a while now
I can still feel so much pain
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains..." -Poison, Every Rose Has It's Thorn.
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i apologize in advance for the length.
i'm 17/f. i don't like drinking. i don't find a point in it. my mom and my sister drink all of the time. it makes them do ridiculously stupid things; typical when you are drunk. my mom has done things like walked into doors, broken valuable things of hers, fallen down the stairs with my cat in her hand, and so on and so forth. my sister is only 19, and she drinks almost every night out of the week. her and her boyfriend broke up over her heavy alcohol use. now, my boyfriend is starting to become a big alcohol user. when i try saying something to them, they say i'm preaching to them, or i'm making everyone mad by preaching to them. what can i say? i'm so sick of everyone telling me i'm preaching to them. i don't like the people they are when they are drinking, and either is my dad. my dad's not even talking to my mom anymore. i need advice on what to say. i don't want to cry about the way things are around my house anymore. any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks :)
I agree with what basketcase_x08 said, it's certianly things you can try.
I drink socially and only socially and even then I am very selective about what I drink. I've only ever once (maybe twice) gotten drunk and even then I was still clear headed enough to know what I am doing. My dad is an alcoholic (still is) and after seeing some horrible stuff because of that it had put me off alcohol a very long time. Now if I drink as I said it's when I'm out and I'm around people I know or can trust otherwise I stick to soft drinks. :]
Forcing someone to stop doesn't work because they will always find a way to feed their addiction. Alcohol is no different to any kind of drug, it's addictive and causes dependancy as well as being dangerous.
I think the first step will be to have a talk with your bf (just you both alone together) and tell him how you feel about him drinking. If he says you're preaching remind him that the reason your mom and dad don't talk anymore is because of the exact thing you're trying to talk to him about. That alcohol split them up and you don't want it getting in the way of you and him and how you don't like who he is when he's drunk. All you really can do is try to get this through to him. Tell him how you're getting sick of it (if you really feel that way). You need to tell him how you feel about his drinking and more importantly WHY you feel that way about it, you need to make him understand you're not just preaching because alcohol is bad, you're telling him this because you don't like what he's becoming. It's important you do this on a one-on-one basis with him so you don't have others screaming at you about how your preaching and such (with just you and him it's just you and him - no one else there to get in the way).
As for your mom and your sister there's only so much you can do but as basketcase_x08 said, talking to your dad might be a very good idea. Explaining to him about what's going on might help and he may be willing to try and help you to get through to your mom and sister. Just remember though that sometimes one person against a few is unfair odds so you need to make things a little more equal. Talk to your bf on his own. Talk to your sister on her own as well if you can - explain to her how what your mom is doing to herself (and to you) is taking its toll and your getting sick of it. See what she has to say and more importantly see if you can get her to see things how you see them.
I wish you luck and I'm glad at least you have not taken up after your mom and sister. :]
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thank you much :o)
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