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situation:
i was at this party last friday and i ended up making out with this guy who's infamous for hooking up with a lot of girls. my 'friends', L, A, and S, were the ones who made me do it. they said "come on its your first make out and you should do it". without a defense, i did. the next week at school, they told everyone who would hear. they told my prude friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd be ashamed of me), my best gay guy friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd make fun of me), and basically everyone else (because they'd judge me).
problem:
what the heck do i do?!?!
do i stick up for myself?
do i make a joke of it?
do i apologize to my friends who are ashamed of me?
i regret it and i'm mad at L, A, and S.
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The damage is done, but luckily for you there's a lot of positive that will come out of this situation if you look at it the right way and handle it maturely.
First of all, L, A, and S need to get L.O.S.T. These girls are not your friends. They're telling you what to do (kissing the guy), setting you up (telling everyone what you did), and are trying to mess with your life. That's not cool. You're much better off without these girls. That's a MUCH better lesson to learn NOW rather than in 10 years when you've established a life for yourself and they try to mess with that. Be happy that they're gone.
Second of all, if your prude and gay friends are so judgmental that they've stopped being your friend because you kissed some boy, then they're not your friends either AND they're extremely immature and need to grow up. It sounds like you need a whole new batch of friends; however, you need to learn to be your own friend first. Stop letting people tell you what to do (like the girls telling you to kiss the boy). Stop being a doormat (Do NOT apologize to anyone because of this - YOU did nothing wrong)!
Finally, the people in your life are the ones who need to grow up, so instead of feeling bad for yourself, you should feel bad for them because you're probably a lot more mature than they are and they have a lot to learn. So let it go and act like it doesn't phase you. It might for a while, but that will pass. You'll find new friends who won't judge you, won't manipulate you, and won't try to sabotage you. People only judge you when you're the center of attention. Enjoy the spotlight and let them all be jealous.
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