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ok im 19 and i have been with my man for like, a year and a half. the guy hasn't had sex in almost 2 years and i am still a virgin. he knows and respects that. But recently he has become sexually frustrated b/c we live together and he says it feels like we are already married with out any of ther perks ... meaning sex. im scared and i want to sleep with him i really do, but im afraid of the pain. he told me there are only two options for this situation. 1: I allow him to go and strictly have sex with another woman, just to get rid of the frustration (but he said he doesnt want that cuz he knows it will hurt me) or 2: for me to get over my fear and go through with it.
well, it all boils down to im afraid of both options, and well, i don't face fears very well. what should i do? Any kind of advice is welcome please help me out. (link)
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Well, the options he gave you are pretty stupid for someone who is supposedly so in love with you. He has two hands and he can warm up some baby oil if he's that frustrated.
As for being so afraid of the pain, you shouldn't be. If you're very aroused, and you're comfortable with your boyfriend and not nervous, then you barely even notice it.
If he loves you then he will be okay with a lot of foreplay to be sure he doesn't hurt you. The reason that it hurts so bad for most females is that they're not wet enough and their muscles were tight from nerves.
Even though you're wet, you should use a water based lube. Put some on the condom and some on your labia. It should be very slippery when you touch it.
You can go to this website for additional information about your first time.
http://scarleteen.com/sexuality/readiness.html
It has a few pages and should tell you just about everything you need to know.
Hope it works out.
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thanks. the page is very informative
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