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Q: For a while, I've been through my ups and downs with guys. I've liked a few, and they haven't liked me back. I realized that it was okay, because I eventually saw the light and understood that they weren't good for me, anyway.
But now, there's a guy who is just... amazing. I like him, but he's so easy to talk to. He's nice, sweet, a real gentleman, funny, cute, smart, and he actually has dreams and aspirations in life. He's different from any other guy I've liked.
My problem? I don't have overall low self-esteem, but because of past rejections, it's hard for me to believe that a guy like that would like me (especially when guys who aren't so great didn't like me). I don't want my fear of pain to hold me back. What should I do about this?
Thank you SO much!
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Go for it. Be his friend. If you can just be regular friends with him for awhile and build a strong foundation, then it will be easier to get a relationship going.
Don't let past experiences hold you back - you'll miss out on some great chances life has to offer. Don't hold onto the mindset that he is going to like you; don't let that be the reason why you are friends with him either. Get to know him and let him get to know you, all of you. If he doesn't show interest, then I wouldn't push it. If you feel like things are going well with him, regardless of how you think he feels, just let him know exactly how you feel about it - be straightforward about it.
Try to just be as good as best friends you can be, and not just for a relationship. If things go well, they will fall into place and work out. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Thank you so much! That really helped. =]
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54857
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