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Long thing cut in half. I'm 14/f and I'm bi and I'm not out of the closet and I'm not planning to come out of the closet anytime soon. I have a lot of gay/bi friends and I love them to death and I don't mind. They're out and they're carefree and don't give crap about what others say. But all good things have the iffy side. Some of my friends are homophobes, my family is a huge homophobe, and the school..80% is homophobic. It's really hard to get along with people now that I'm in high school. Some people tend to tease me because I have so many nonstraight friends. One time a group of guys that make fun of me and my bff--who is gay--on the bus rammed me with their shoulders on purpose because I was friends with gay guys. Some people won't even talk to me. And it's really getting hard to keep up this little image where I look perfectly find and don't mind as long as I have my friends. I don't know what to do about that.
And also, one of my gay friends always goes "You're the only straight person in our group. We need to turn you bi" And I don't know what I'm suppose to say. I just laugh it off. But I'm already bi and I can't risk telling them because I feel intiminated and they're really gossip-y so heh no way. Some people ask if I'm bi also because I have so many gay/bi friends. ANd I don't want to say no but I have to or else it gets iffier.
So my questions are: what do I do with the school people situation and what do I say with the "be bi"/"Are you bi" statements said to me?
I know you don't want to, but the best thing to do right now is to tell someone. Preferably one of your gay friends. There has to be atleast ONE who won't gossip. When I was discovering my bisexuality, I felt horrible keeping it a secret from my friends. When I told them, it was a billion times better. It's hard being a teen as it is. EVERYBODY in high school feels alienated, even the ones who seem perfect. You need to rely on somebody.
For the people at school, seriously, just screw them. If they make fun of you, laugh it off. If they go further, tell them to stop. If they ever hand you a peice of paper and say, "Hey hon, give that to the teacher for me, okay?", rip it up and throw it away! I know, it seems really hard, but once you take the plunge, it really isn't! It's also fun.
And anybody who asks if you are bi...just say, "Why do you care?" Because, really, they shouldn't. It's your business ONLY.
(Rating: 5) Well I have 3 gay friends. 2 talks A LOT and 1 listens but doesn't get the do NOT tell part. Heh and my bi friends, I'm not uber close to them so it's gonna be a little hard but thanks a bunch =] It's good to hear an advice from someone who's actually bi =]