TEENAGExHEARTS's advice column

Long thing cut in half. I'm 14/f and I'm bi and I'm not out of the closet and I'm not planning to come out of the closet anytime soon. I have a lot of gay/bi friends and I love them to death and I don't mind. They're out and they're carefree and don't give crap about what others say. But all good things have the iffy side. Some of my friends are homophobes, my family is a huge homophobe, and the school..80% is homophobic. It's really hard to get along with people now that I'm in high school. Some people tend to tease me because I have so many nonstraight friends. One time a group of guys that make fun of me and my bff--who is gay--on the bus rammed me with their shoulders on purpose because I was friends with gay guys. Some people won't even talk to me. And it's really getting hard to keep up this little image where I look perfectly find and don't mind as long as I have my friends. I don't know what to do about that.

And also, one of my gay friends always goes "You're the only straight person in our group. We need to turn you bi" And I don't know what I'm suppose to say. I just laugh it off. But I'm already bi and I can't risk telling them because I feel intiminated and they're really gossip-y so heh no way. Some people ask if I'm bi also because I have so many gay/bi friends. ANd I don't want to say no but I have to or else it gets iffier.

So my questions are: what do I do with the school people situation and what do I say with the "be bi"/"Are you bi" statements said to me?

don't let the other people at school bring you down because of what they say about you being friends with gay people. at my school i'm friend with a bi guy and a lot of the guys make fun of him. and then some people make fun of me because i'm friends with him, but all i do is take it and say well you know what you have your friends and i'll have mine.

since your not ready to come out yet, don't get pressured into it. but remember when you are ready, your friends will be there for you.

you said your family is homophobe, so what do they do about your friends? i'm sure that they aren't as homophobe as you think or else they wouldn't let you have those friends. and when you are ready to tell them, remember they are your family and they will always love you no matter what you do.

now for at school. if your friends say like we need to turn you bi just continue laughing and maybe add something like "ok have fun trying". and if other people ask you if you are bi say something like "well no, but why does it matter?". or something like "how does that affect you?"

good luck =]

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(Rating: 5) Haha, my parents don't know my friends are gay/bi. They've asked if I knew any gay/bi/lez people and I was like...erm no...but they haven't seen Curtis and Cole at their gay-est moments

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