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Im dating a guy who is cousins with one of my closer friends they talk about me and i know they do, because she feels that we shouldnt date anymore we've been together for almost 2 years (few more months to come) but my bf feels that i've stolen him away from her like i hog him to much & she feels the same way. I dont want them to think that. Im not heartless i think family is important so why'd i want that for them right? i want them to know that i do believe its important that they still do see eachother, I want to write her a letter explaining that i do think its important they hang out, spend time together, u no? So could you help me get started with a letter or tell me some things to put in the letter?

Sure I can help you! Thanks so much for posting in my inbox; really appreciate it!

Ok, to get you started you'll need to write down all the points of what you want to say. For example here's some to get you started:

* You think family is important.
* You think it is important for them to spend time together.
* You don't see why you shouldn't date her cousin anymore.
* She does not own him or you and is not in the relationship so should not have an input into how long you and your boyfriend should be together.

Just add anything to that list that you want to say...just important points for your letter. It doesn't have to be too long, just what you feel you need to say.

Remember that she is a close friend and you don't want to lose her or her cousin over this so keep your letter to her NICE. Just give her the facts in a way which dosen't sound too rude or upfront. Especially the last point.

Once you've thought about and written down your points you'll need to just say a few sentences or so about each...sort of like writing an essay, I suppose, but this is just short and sweet if you wish!

Just let her know how your feeling as well, this is really important because she might not be able to see this from your point of view. Most people don't look at both sides of a dilemma. So just tell her straight out...if you're feeling confused or upset then tell her so. Remember to keep it nice though.

I think the way in which you've explained your situation here to me is a good way to start, you've told me your feelings and the main points, just keep along this track of things.

If you need anymore advice ontop of this or more tips on setting out your letter or getting started I'd be more than happy to help you so just leave me a question in my inbox. If you'd like I can help you with your completed letter as well; you can email it to me if you'd like...my address is in my column.

Best of luck with this and I hope all goes well for you!

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