I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
Website: My Space
Gender: Female
Location: Dorset, UK
Occupation: Customer Liaison Case Officer
Age: 21
MSN: hottchickie@hotmail.com
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i made a mistake! jus one small mistak (choosing the wrong highschool ... where i live you choose which onwe to go to..everyone told me not to take this one.. but i did) and now my life is ruined! im miserable! i cry myself to sleep everynight, EVERY SINGLE NIGHT! i hate my life, and all i ever want to do is sleep, just cause crying as much as i do gives me a headache.. so what? i made a mistake! it happens, right? and ok ive learnt from it! "listen to my parents and friends from now on" - its on my "learnt lessons" list! so now howcome he doesnt make it better??! why won't he help me get back on my feet?? OR why'd he make so much depend on just one choice, how could he make my happynees depend on what school i choose? so i chose the wrong one, now i have to be miserable and suffer for it? help me understand because i dont want to stop trusting in him or become bitter towards him, or blame him for my sorrow.. not at all, so just please explain this to me.. if you know the answer.. thank you!! (link)
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I must admit I am an atheist but the answer to this is really very simple.
God is not the answer to our happiness or sorrow. He provides the tools but the truth is, each person makes his or her own happiness with what they have been given. He can't just swoop in and make things better because this was a choice that you made. He's not punishing you for making the wrong decision and he can't make it better either.
I know how hard it is. I went through a really rough time when I was at school and for two years, I was more miserable than I ever believed possible. You know what though? It doesn't last forever and eventually you will come out the other side, better for the experiences that made you so miserable because in future, you will know better how to avoid them and how best to cope while in them.
It's easy to blame God for everything that is wrong in this world but a lot of people don't stop to think that it isn't God's doing. God doesn't destroy things. Man does. Man causes war, man causes death and destruction and Man makes mistakes. God may be all powerful and omnipresent but that doesn't mean he can make our choices for us or prevent those choices from blowing up in our faces if we make the wrong one. It's freewill. He gives us the tools to learn and become better people but nothing more.
What I'm saying is that you need to realise you aren't being punished and stop being so hard on both yourself and your beliefs. Yes, things are hard now but they won't stay that way forever and I assure you that in the long run, your life is far from ruined. Many a successful person has had a bad start in life. Look at Jim Carey. He was tormented and abused by his Father and only learnt to be funny by practising faces in the mirror when he was at his lowest.
Okay, so you made a mistake. Stop punishing yourself for it and just get on with things. I know it doesn't sound easy but once you make the decision to do it, it really can be. You haven't said what the problem actually is but you CAN and WILL overcome it with a little strength and after it is all over, you will realise that your experience has made you a better person.
In the meantime, keep praying but don't forget that it's YOU that has the power to change things.
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thank you so much, ive asked you a lot of questions and i can always trust that you'll give me a straight honest answer that usually works. thank you so much for making me realize it has to do with my outlook on life..and that it's just temporary. i pray that you'll go far in life and always be happy, you deserve it! & im sure people always get what they deserve..good o bad. so thank you. and good luck.
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